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starsinwaves
VIP November 2018

Bridal shower wishing well help

starsinwaves, on February 8, 2018 at 11:25 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 11
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This isn’t about my wedding, but I got invited to my cousin’s shower. When I RSVP’d to my aunt last night, she said instead of a traditional wishing well, they’re doing a gift card wishing well. So I asked if that meant we bring gift cards instead of physical gifts (which didn’t make sense to me since the registry is on the invitation) and she said you could do that, or bring a gift card in a small denomination and bring a gift.

So now I’m just confused. I looked into what a wishing well is and it seems like an outdated thing that was traditionally used for small items to help the couple set up their home. My best friend said she went to a shower where they had a spice wishing well, which actually sounds like a cute idea. It seems weird to me to bring a $5-$10 gift card to Macy’s or something. I’m also off-put that my aunt is basically asking that we bring two gifts to the shower. Not to mention my cousin is still in school and is going to remain living with her mom for two years while she finishes (whole other story we don’t need to get into), so I feel like it’s out of place to ask for home stuff anyway.

Any advice? Honestly leaning toward skipping the gift card thing and just bringing a gift off the registry like I planned.

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Latest activity by Vivian, on February 8, 2018 at 4:16 PM
  • Forestwed
    Master May 2018
    Forestwed ·
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    I haven’t seen a wishing well at a shower in very long time. Women brought a traditional gift then something very small for the couples new home. Cleaning products, sponges, random little things. Only costed a few dollars. I wouldn’t bring a gift card
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  • Nicole
    VIP November 2017
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    I would probably skip the gift card and just get something off the registry.
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  • Nicole
    Expert September 2018
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    I'd be petty and get her a giftcard to the student store. But I'm in a petty mood today.

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  • Brenda
    Devoted May 2018
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    I agree with the other PPs to just get her a gift off the registry. I feel like most people overlook the wishing well (or whatever else the host has thought of) anyway. I went to my cousin’s shower where the “wishing well” was bringing a bottle of wine/alcohol to stock the couple’s bar and my MOH asked for recipes for my FH and I. I didn’t see many bottles of liquor at my cousin’s shower and my recipe box is pretty empty (although I loved the ones I did get) I don’t think this second “gift” will be missed.
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  • E&M
    Master July 2016
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    Personally I would just get her a gift from the registry.

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  • HowCo Industries
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    I think they tried to come up with a way to help her set-up a household but not have to store it for two years. A bit of a swing and a miss in my mind. I'd just get a gift card and that's it. Maybe give her a favorite recipe to be festive.
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    I haven't seen this with a wedding shower, but it seems like every baby shower invitation I've received in the last few years includes the extensive registry information, a request for a "diaper derby" donation, AND that in lieu of a (simple, useless, cheap) card I buy a book for the baby and write my personal inscription on that.... Even with the cheapest diapers and the least expensive board book, you just added $20 to my expected "gift." I usually just give a gift of baby books and call it a day. For this bridal shower I'd probably just buy a gift card to a store on the registry and be done!


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  • FutureMrsW
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    Yeah, that's a little much. I went to a baby shower for a girl I kind of know a few months ago and probably spent a good $50 on her between the registry gift, the book/card, and extra diapers. I thought that was definitely too much then as well, but I didn't want to be the only one who showed up with only one thing. I wish I had just gotten one thing at the end of the day -- or, better yet, not gone as I barely knew anyone, barely got to talk to the girl, and just didn't really have fun -- and, to top it off, I didn't get a thank you!

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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    After her recent baby shower -- with 70+ people -- a co-worker was eager to report that based on their calculations, they shouldn't have to buy diapers until the baby is 6-7 months old based on the "haul from the derby!" Yeah, I was extra glad I declined that invitation and just gave her a Target gift card wrapped inside a board version of "Good night, Moon!"

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  • starsinwaves
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    Thanks all. I feel better now about just bringing a gift.
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  • Vivian
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    This made me laugh, I like you and I like your honesty.

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