My MOH/sister reached out to me asking if one of my bridesmaids who lives on the other side of the country should have to chip in for the shower even though she won't be able to attend. Her (MOH) thought was that it's unfair to the rest of the group (I have 6 total). I had always thought since she (bridesmaid) had to pay for her flight to attend the wedding I wasn't going to ask her for anything else. But I am also not the one planning the shower and could see both sides of this. I told her (MOH) since she's planning it its her call, but she was curious about the etiquette in these situations so I said I just come here and ask. So, thoughts?