Bridal Shower / Wedding Gift Etiquette

We did our wedding website on Zola and it gives you the option of sending the gifts now or sending them later. I see that some gifts were already purchased for our upcoming October wedding but I don't plan on having them shipped to our house until later September. Then we will open them after our vacation. We're definitely not transporting them to the venue!

I think my friend just opened hers right away. That way you can send the thank you card immediately. I really don’t think there is certain etiquette around it. I’m sure most people that send a gift instead of bringing it to the shower are planning on not attending the shower for whatever reason and just wanted to make sure you got the gift.

Our wedding in also this October, and since mailing out the invitations for the wedding and shower we started receiving deliveries. On our registry we can see who bought what gifts and who had them shipped to us or to themselves. And to my surprise everyone so far that has bought a gift and sent it directly to us has also RSVP gping for the shower.


It is just difficult now to know if these gifts are for the ahower or the day of wedding?

You open any gifts that come to your home immediately and send thank you notes ASAP. But don’t use anything until after the wedding. You don’t bring them to a shower. Most are wedding gifts because shower gifts are given specifically at the shower. Some people will give you 2 or more gifts but most will pick one or the other.