Hello! I’m debating skipping opening gifts during the bridal shower. I feel awkward sitting in front of everyone watching. Also think we can continue the shower with catching up, games, or something. My sister said they can mention not wrapping gifts or using clear wrapping so guests can see what was received. When I told my fiancé he said but isn’t a big part of the shower to open gifts with guests? I was surprised he seemed to want to open them (he’ll be there by that point). . Did you open gifts or skip it? Do you think anyone would miss it or feel some type of way if we didn’t do it!
I’ve never been to a shower where they didn’t open gifts and I’d feel kind of weird if that happened. For me, most of the excitement of a shower is getting to see all the stuff the bride/couple is given.
Definitely not opening. I’m sure it’s different everywhere but by me general consensus is it’s torture to watch people unwrap. Wrap in clear or writing a nicer personalized thank you is becoming the norm. The shower itself has become more about entertaining the guests. We do games, raffles, drink, and enjoy.
I like the idea of having the hosts ask guests to bring the gift unwrapped, set them all on a table, and people who want to see what the bride and groom received as gifts can walk around and look at everything on the table! That way, people can spend more time socializing instead of watching (which can take a long time). I personally wouldn't want a bunch of people watching me open gifts (but I also don't like a lot of attention on me in general).
I think, as a gift giver, part of the joy for them is seeing your reaction. Also, some of the games involve the gifts - like bingo and such, depending on which games you were planning to play. It's also extremely helpful to have someone else logging what you get and from whom so you can send your thank you cards after.
If I were invited to a bridal shower, I'd likely be among the older middle-aged guests -- an aunt or friend of the bride's mom. I would definitely expect the bride to open gifts; to me, the point of a shower is "showering the bride/couple with gifts" and it's fun to see them all opened and hear the bride/couple's reaction to each. I find the trend of "oh, it's awkward/boring/too time consuming/etc." odd. If opening gifts is that objectionable or burdensome to the bride/couple, I'd say skip the shower. As a pp mentioned, there are shower games, like gift Bingo, that help keep guests involved. At daughter's shower guests were completely engaged in the gift opening process and were quite "competitive" with the gift-related games we played, so it was a lot of fun. Clearly her guests put a lot of thought and effort into selecting gifts and wrapping them, and it was fun to see her reaction to each.
We didn’t open gifts at our co-ed shower and only got complaints from my husband’s grandma and aunt, who complain about everything! We wrote personalized thank you notes so all guests knew exactly how appreciative we were of their specific gifts.
The point of a shower is for gifts so I think it would odd to not open them. I’ve seen it done as a bingo board. The guests wrote down what they think you’re going to get in the boxes and then they mark off their board as you open.
By definition, the purpose of the shower is the gifts. As a gift-giver, the part I enjoy the most is watching the person open the gift! (And this is true for any gift, not just wedding shower gifts.). Totally understand you could feel awkward and on-the-spot, but I think it’s a small price to pay to express appreciation for those who have showed up to shower you with gifts.
I think your guests will expect you to open their gift. Watching the bride/couple open gifts is part of the fun of a shower. I would find it odd to attend a shower, and bring a gift, and the bride/couple not open it.
I opened gifts - it's a little weird, sitting in front of everyone, but it was SO much fun to see what everyone got us and the givers got to see my genuine reactions. If I went to a shower and they didn't open gifts, I would definitely "feel some kind of way"
I think the whole point of a shower is to shower the bride with gifts and watch her open them. I've never been to a bridal shower where the bride didn't open her gifts. As a guest, I think I would probably be a little hurt/offended if the bride didn't open my gift....
Hey, I won't be opening gifts at my shower. I want to use the time to celebrate, play games and have the families mingle. It's just my personal opinion, but I find it boring watching people open gifts and I don't want people to be bored at my shower. Plus, people can always see what you received on your registry.
A shower is a gift giving event so guests expect the bride to open them at that time. There are stories about brides who ask guests to not wrap gifts and guests nearly always say it was awkward for them and they would never do that again and would rather decline the invite.