Bridal Shower Question

Usually a bridal shower will include mothers and close female relatives from both sides of the family along with friends. But at the end of the day, you only have to invite who you want to invite.

I would try to find a place where you could invite mothers, grandmothers, etc who are invited to your wedding. Does your church have a hall you could use?

I didn't include every single female from my side. I just included my close friends only

Have you looked at rec centers? Often they have a room that you can rent. Not ideal but something. Also, do you live near a Paneras. I went to a bridal shower once held in the private room and you either pay $75 to rent it out or buy $75 worth of their food and the mgr. told me you can bring outside food. Just make it continental style.

I think the issue it the amount of people. We want to keep a very small group do to the budget.

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I think you can just buy some simple continental food and you can help her pay. Just do some fruit trays, bagels, donuts and veggie trays. If you really do not want one then do not feel you have to have it. I would also maybe suggest the bridal party bring a dish to share maybe? I have been to showers where the hosts had some prepared foods. It is easier to maybe ask each bridesmaid to contribute some kind of food dish and they can find free games to play at the event. There are very affordable ways to have it.

I think you’re okay to invite whoever you’d like. I think it’s admirable that your friend is going out of her way to host for you and it’s awesome that you’re so considerate of her budget. I’d just throw the party you want and can afford. I’m not inviting every female guest to mine!

You don’t have to invite anyone you don’t want to, and obviously we don’t know your relationship with your family, but my mom would have been pretty upset if I didn’t invite her to my shower.

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I can not help pay because we are already over budget with the wedding which is why I didnt want one. I didnt want to put any financial stress on anyone else. I think she wants to do potluck style. I would still make a few dishes myself as well. I just didnt know if it was mandatory for my family or mother in law to be invited.

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Eh I do not see how you could not invite them without them finding out and not being upset. Is it possible your mom or MIL could help host? Maybe have it at their house? You MOH could ask.

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Yeah I think we will just do that, my mother is paying for some of the wedding so she isnt going to throw a shower. But I informed her of my maid of honors plan and she said it sounded like a good plan. I think I am more concerned about offending my in laws.

Also, if you are willing to forego the gifts and just do a recipe exchange in which everyone attending brings a dish to share and the recipe for you to keep?

Usually a bridal shower includes family. This sounds more like the bacchelorette party to me. My FMIL threw me a bridal shower. Maybe suggest to your MOH that she can host the bachelorette party and someone with more financial stability can host the bridal shower.

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That sounds like a good idea. I dont really care for or need gifts so I like that idea.

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I dont want her to ask anyone to throw me a party that isnt really needed. I think I will still tell my MIL and if she wants to still come she can.

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Sure. I thin you deserve to have a day of some fund with your ladies.