Bridal Shower Optional?

Congrats to you! Realistically it isn’t your decision to make. If your bridal party, mom, MIL or whoever wants to throw you one then you’ll just have to ride with it. Unless you specifically say, “I don’t want one”.

Or you can have a bridal luncheon instead of a bridal shower.

I say the shower is for showering any bride, in any stage of life, with love and if you would like that, go for it! ❤️ Maybe if it would be more comfortable you could have a less formal couples’ or coed shower/gathering?

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Good suggestion! Thank you.

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Ah. I didn't realize that! Thanks for enlightening me.
And the suggestion on having a Bridal Luncheon vs a Shower sounds really good, too!

Thank you!

You definitely don’t have to have a bridal shower if ya don’t want ! I know people who skipped pre wedding events like that

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Thank you! I wasn't exactly comfortable with the idea, especially this late in life and being mostly established.

If someone has offered to host a bridal shower for you, but you do not feel comfortable having one, you can always decline. A nice option would be to have a bridal luncheon instead. Typically, there are no gifts exchanged at luncheons.

Agree with others, first and foremost, this should depend on whether someone offers to host a shower for you. If they do, and you don't want one, you can thank them and decline their offer. Or, if you would love to have one, you can graciously accept -- they may or may not ask for your input. In most social circles it is considered very bad manners for a bride to host her own shower or ask/expect someone to host one for her. It should be the host's choice to offer.

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Sometimes people have specific bridal shower themes too if that helps you feel more comfortable about it. for instance i've seen ones where people gift you lingerie only aha or something travel themed and related for the honeymoon or a date night type where they gift you things you guys can use for date nights as newlyweds

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I did decline one offer and I also never even thought of hosting one (hence my question ) - thought this was something that was normally thrown by coworkers or other groups knowing that someone was getting married. Thanks for the tips!

If someone offers for you, you can definitely accept! If it's offered, then obviously they don't have an issue with it. You can't really throw it for yourself, though. You can plan a bridal luncheon on your own, though!