Bridal Shower Nightmare😭

My bridal Shower was a disaster and I’m so upset because I was told not to worry about anything. So yesterday was my bridal shower which was hosted at my future in laws place. It was held there due to their home being a good midway point between where I live in NH and where my family lives in Northern ME. My in- laws home is right in the middle. So my fiancé’s mom is old fashioned and leading up to the bridal shower she kept saying “you’re not supposed to do anything.” Which I knew but I have been a DIY bride for the past year and like helping. Also, my maid of honor lives a state away and barely knows my future mother- in- law so I knew I had to take charge a little bit.

Both my fiancé and I come from low income families and I didn’t want to make anyone feel like they had to shoulder the full burden of the cost of a bridal shower. So I said I’d like to do the mimosa bar and a photo back drop. My mom, god mother, maid of honor and myself all communicated w/ my FMIL several times that we’d be arriving early to help setup. (Around 11:30am- 12:00pm, bridal Shower started at 2pm). My FMIL confirmed that was fine.

Yesterday when we all arrived for setup, there was NOTHING done. No food, no decorations. Absolutely NOTHING . Oh AND to top it all off my FMIL wasn’t even home. She was working! She didn’t get home until 12:30pm... she didn’t help setup, at all. Myself, my fiancé, my mom and god mother HAD to do absolutely EVERYTHING. And come up with decorations. My brother’s wife who is also one of my bridesmaids and a mother to two small children and had her kids with her was a super woman and a huge help as well!

My maid of honer who had never been to my mother-in-laws and had a 5hr drive there brought games and desserts but showed up maybe 20min before the start of the event. My fiancé’s sister who is one of my bridesmaids and lives at home and WAS home when we were setting up didn’t help with anything. Luckily when I made my backdrop I did balloon garland and over estimated the amount of balloons I needed. Cause balloons were the ONLY decorations we had.

When it was all over my fiancé’s mom also didn’t help with clean up. I did it all with the help of my fiancé and family. I will say my mom, my sister, god mother and fiancé REALLY stepped it up and made things happen. But they shouldn’t have had to. I am SO hurt by my fiance’s Family. I’m sorry but how is it okay to tell someone you’re so excited to throw them a bridal shower, consistently tell them to stop trying to help and then do NOTHING?!? My fiancé is furious with his mother and sister. I’m just completely lost at how to feel or what to do at this point.