Hi everyone, I have a question regarding hostess gifts. I had zero hand in the planning of my bridal shower (technically I wasn't even supposed to know the date, but I now know the date and location). I know my MOH did the bulk of the work, so I will be getting her a hostess gift. However, I don't know how involved my other bridesmaids, mom, and FMIL have been. Should I get something small for all of them? I know my BM all agreed on a date that worked for them (2 are out of town), and I know my FMIL helped secure the location. I don't want anyone to feel snubbed. Also, any ideas for hostess gifts that aren't crazy expensive? I'm a full time grad student, so money is a little tight.
I honestly really wouldn’t worry about it...presumably these are people you will be getting gifts for to thank them for being part of your bridal party/parents of the b/g. Just get them nice gifts for that—I’m a super generous gift giver and I feel like hostess gifts for showers is going over the top.
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Yeah I never heard of it until coming on here. OP maybe just write them a very heartfelt thank you after the fact.
Yeah I mean gift giving is my love language but i've seen SO MANY posts about what gifts to get for asking bridesmaids, bachelorette party attendants, bridal shower hosts, man it's just all WAY too much for me. I think of the rehearsal dinner as the time to give a gift to the people who have helped you or done something nice for you as a show of thanks. I just think it's so much money on gifts that I never expected for attending or hosting any of these parties! To me, one gift is an appropriate show of thanks for being a part of the process. Totally agree with you!
Thank you ladies! I honestly never even heard if this custom until I came to this forum lol. I love my friends and family so much and am so appreciative of everything they've done for me throughout this process. I just want to make sure they understand my appreciation and don't feel slighted or anything! I think I will just stick to the gift at the end along with the heartfelt note I was planning to write each one.
You need to write each a thank you note. Little gifts are optional. Participation like just chhoing the date or the invitations, is generally not gift worthy. Doing the bulk of the work, or cooking for 20-30 guests, gift worthy. You do not give a gift during the shower. You do it after, or may do it at a luncheon or rehearsal dinner. For example, though you would do a separate thank you note right after the shower for all, a bm with a minor role in planning the shower, not hours and hours, might get one gift for being bridesmaid , and all the little things she did, that is a personal gift. She need not get one for this, one for that, another for shower.