Bridal shower guest list

You should ask your MOH how many people she's comfortable hosting and cut the guest list accordingly.

I don't think it's insane depending on the number of people you're inviting to your wedding. My mom found the guest list for the shower her church threw for my sister-in-law, and it had 150 people on it (and that only included the shower in our hometown). The shower my parents' church is throwing me will probably have the same amount of people.

That's insane. Caytlyn has it right - you need to ask your MOH how many people she is comfortable hosting (without telling her how many you have in mind now). Cut your list to whatever number she gives you.

If it were me, I would keep a shower that my sister is throwing to just my side of the family (i.e. her family too). If that's still too many, i'd cut friends other than the bridal party. If your H's side would like to be involved in a shower, someone on his side can offer to host one for you.

It depends on where she's hosting the party. 70 is definitely a lot if it's going to be at someone's home, but it sounds ok if it's at in a community room or something. Just be upfront with your MOH about all your concerns and work together to get a list!

Just make it girls only. Guys in general hate bridal and baby showers.

A shower hostess does not have to invite everyone you can think of. If you give her a list of 70, and she can afford only 20-25, that is how big the shower is . You don't get to order up a party for an unlimited number. If there is a different hostess, separate shower, each takes different people and the total would be more. But hostess determines the size and nature ( formal restaurant setting vs casual home, and full hot apps etc, or just beverage and dessert. ). Not up to the bride. Also, a shower gift is a second gift, given in addition to a wedding gift. Supposed to be given only by your very closest friends and family. Not groomsmen's girlfriends you are not close to, cousins you see a couple times a year, general friends of your parents you are not especially close to. People you would happily buy two fairly large gifts for. The rest of wedding guests, only one gift, should not be on your shower list. It is not just an honor to be asked to a shower. It is an expectation that person will spend $50-$100, in addition to the larger gift that is the wedding gift. Lots of people think a bride is greedy if they are not very, very close friends, and are put on a list indicating they are expected to want to buy that second gift. Also, in practical terms, most people come to a shower wanting to see you open their gift. 20, 30 gifts, okay. But think of everyone sitting in place while you open 60 gifts. Even spending 2 minutes per gift, to be polite, that is 2 hours. Yikes. And easily becomes 3 hours. Multiple small showers, or just cutting your list to people very close to you, also makes for a manageable number of gift openings that people will enjoy, allowing you to e to converse, relax. So maybe this k smaller, and ask your hostess for her number.

Honestly it is up to you. I would only invite those closest to you. Like Grandma’s, Aunt’s, mom, future mother in law, sisters, or any future sister in laws, your close friends and if your fiancé has any close female friends.

70 is insane. What is really immediate family? Keep in mind that it should be more so who you know from his side of the family as it's a bridal shower. I only invited my husband's mom, grandma, aunt, and 3 cousins (only 2 showed up). He has two half sisters and nieces that I did not invite because I am not close with them and I've met them once or twice before the wedding in the span of 6 years.. It doesn't have to be everyone! Also, only mutual female friends/your friends. You aren't obligated to invite his female friends if there are any.

Shesh, some ladies sound bitter and bossy.

The number of people who will be invited to your shower will ultimately be dependant on the person who is throwing it. I would just give the list and break it down by sections on family/friends/co-workers etc... and let her and whoever else is chipping in decide. I had the same issue with 75 people on my list of which 65 was just immediate family. If you have a large family, then discuss with you and your fiances' mothers as well and see if they recommend cutting people out because they may turn around and say don't invite Aunt Bla Bla Bla. Inviting 70 people is not a crazy number though considering not everyone is going to attend anyway. I've been to showers with almost 100 women.

Congrats and enjoy your day!

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This site was nice at first and don’t get me wrong I see MANY friendly people on here but the most of them just judge one another and try to up the others big day. And then you have the wedding experts” that think they know it all.. BUT thank you so much for your kind words!! 🥰🥰🥰