Bridal shower etiquette

Not a jerk for the way you feel. It’s understandable. I’d casually ask what happened and mention that you noticed everyone seemed to bolt out.

In my experience, if a single person leaves earlier than expected, usually others will follow (whether for the same or different reasons).

I personally would let it go – I can’t speak to whether they had other things on, thought the event would run much shorter than it did, didn’t feel well or whatever but what has happened has happened. Your feelings are 100% valid – vent them here and then move past it focusing on your upcoming elopement 😉

In my experience, wedding showers typically only last 1-2 hours. They mainly consist of eating, drinking and giving presents... then leaving. It sounds like your friends had the typical bridal shower experience.

I know a lot of people on here will say that when you choose to elope you forego all pre-wedding events (showers, bachelorette parties, etc.) since all the people invited to those events should be invited to the wedding. Maybe your "friends" felt making an appearance was sufficient since they won't be wedding guests.

Maybe they left early because they felt awkward? I would personally feel very awkward attending a bridal shower for someone's wedding that I wasn't invited to

View Quoted Comment Agree with this. Plus, showers in our circles are only a couple hours max anyway, even with all the eating, socializing and games.

Yes this must be spoken upon and explanation on why they did that. They were rude I'm sorry that did that. Because if it was you im sure they with no hesitation to ask you about it

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I would feel awkward too.

An hour seems like sufficient time. They came and showed up for your event, socialized for an hour...seems ok to me. I do understand your disappointment that you had hoped people would be able to stay longer, but no one did anything wrong.