Bridal Shower Etiquette

Hi Monique! For your wedding, did you only invite immediate family members? If so, I think it would be okay for the hosts to invite people not invited to the wedding

I feel that if you want to have a bridal shower even if people are not coming to your wedding that regardless of what etiquette says you should. However maybe just call it a bridal brunch or something and I think the expectation is that you are still willing to provide the food but don't expect any gift. I think just having an event to where you can just celebrate your upcoming day with some friends and family isn't a bad thing. I would suggest that whoever you do choose to invite that they understand your plans and then hopefully they are okay with it. I come to find that often many friends want to do some kind of Celebration even if they know they're not going to the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Yes, we invited immediately family & some of our church members that’s is ALL. 65 guest only!

View Quoted Comment Yes, Kristen I agree I would not expect a gift that would be of choice for the individual, I also agree that friends do want to celebrate with you even if there unable to attend the wedding.

Not okay. If you want a larger guest list, you can always turn it into a mixed gender wedding shower

In my opinion, it would not be okay to invite people not invited to the wedding. Good luck!

We have bridal showers here at work for laddies and I have never went to their weddings, I have went to a few bridal showers and was not invited to the wedding. I felt fine with it, I have 2 children I would have to find a sitter for and I enjoyed spending time with her and her friends. You are getting food, cake and maybe a prize for winning the games at the shower, so a gift in return I feel was proper. However, I will be inviting people who are invited to the reception. I am having a closed ceremony with only our immediate family. Parents, Siblings, Aunts and uncles at most 30ppl and we will have a celebration of 200+ at the reception. Good luck hope everything works out.

No, it's not okay to invite people to come shower you with presents if they're not invited to the wedding itself.

I personally did not invite anyone to the shower that was not invited to the wedding as well. We had a couples shower instead of a typical bridal shower.

I would however feel it was a bit rude to invite me to a shower and expect me to bring you a gift but not think I was important enough to be invited to the actual wedding unless it was a work related shower or something of that nature.