Bridal shower declines

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I have no idea how many RSVPed for my bridal shower because my MOH has been diligent about keeping everything under wraps. Hopefully I don't show up to just 4 people in the room! Easier said than done, but try to frame it in the sense that those who make it are there because they love you. Also, sometimes people decline out of necessity (can't get out of something else, etc.) so the reason for the decline is more likely about something with them and not you.

We had a few declines I did not want a huge shower. We had 5 declines then someone that was going to be like two hours late so basically miss it all. So I had 6 people come. It did not. She me feel unloved people are bust a lot going on. Vocations family things and so on.

I'm sure it isn't personal. Life is just busy. Perhaps , they had a prior commitment.
Never fear, the ones that love you most will share your big day.❤

I'm sure they love you but sometimes people can't always attend things . I'm sure you'll still have a great shower even if it's intimate

Sorry that you feel like this, it sucks. I'm not trying to be mean but be thankful you are having a shower and have people coming at all. I know it is not about me but I've wished in my mind that someone was throwing me a shower! I've accepted the situation for what it is and am OK with that. Just some perspective for you.

Sometimes people can't make it or there are money issues. There are many reasons. It's probably not personal. It is so important to manage expectations and the energy you give into the types of relationships you have with others. It's really easy to get disappointed when you give a lot and get little back. Enjoy your party.

I'm sorry you feel like this, but it can't be helped. Declines are a normal part of events. I know we already have declines for mine, but then again, I am expecting and wanting a small one anyways. Not really a party person.

Yep I’m barely having anyone come to my bridal shower. I know it’s not against me but it still hurts. Either way I’m going to have fun with the people who are there.

Many people prioritize attending a wedding over a shower, for lots of reasons. The wedding is the main event, so try to focus on that.

I was just telling my sister (MOH) that she was stressing me out telling me how many people are coming and who declined. Yesterday she said only 10 people have RSVP'd out of 80. Great. She also made a point to tell me that none of my bridesmaids have responded. I texted them really quick to remind them. A few more responded and she texted me back saying "it's still only 12". UGH. I confirmed my FH's family and now the number is up to 28. We have a huge chunk of family (10 people) that are on vacation so their RSVP's will be late.

I'm pretty sensitive about this kind of stuff so every decline kinda hurts. What has been really nice is that a few people who have declined have sent gifts so I still get to write them a thank you card for thinking of me.

I am still excited for the party and I am really grateful for everyone who can make it. My mom has worked so hard on decorations and putting this whole thing together that I know I will love every minute of it.

I’ve only received one gift from someone who couldn’t attend— not that it’s about the gifts but even a card would be nice. One of the ladies I talked to about coming said she wasn’t sure if she was coming because of her kids and this is going to be a classy bridal shower so I told her her kids are more than welcome to come. She didn’t seem like she wanted to come and ended up declining anyway.

It’s also sad cause they went to another family friend’s bridal shower and the host charged them $20!! They weren’t happy about having to pay but they still went. So it’s frustrating when I see barely any of them come to my shower.

I'm sorry you feel that way! My mom invited 40 women to my shower, 20 came. I was fine with that, I knew people typically don't drive longer than 30 minutes for a shower. A few of my fiance's family members came late (graduation of his cousin was the same day). It ended up being intimate & very fun!

My shower will probably only have about a dozen people because all of my friends live out of state but it’ll still be fun!

View Quoted Comment The shower asks for a second gift, in addition to the wedding gift, and only your very closest friends and family should be invited. Maybe, realistically, you only have 20-30 very close friends, close enough to as to buy you a second present, in their eyes. Less a few who cannot come, though they would like to do so. . . I do not know anyone with 80 people that close to them. I have a huge family, including 35 first cousins ( women) within 5 years of my age, living nearby, and adding in aunt's, grandmother, my closest friends, still not 80. Maybe part of the issue is that a lot of the people invited, really did not think of themselves as that close. Too many invited. But the number coming will be those you know best. That is the best thing, 15-30 people who consider themselves to be your most intimate friends and family. So don't feel bad. You are lucky to have that many people so close. Most people don't.

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I have 40 aunts, female cousins, and cousins kids. We all live in SoCal so it is not out of the question that they would attend. I have 10 or so friends from middle school/high school that I still see regularly and are my bridesmaids. I have 10 friends from college that I am still very close to, we all live in the same area. And I invited my fiance's mother, grandmas, aunts (5) and cousins (5), we are very close since they have known me for 8 years. I have grown up in the same neighborhood since birth and we are very close to my neighbors, they used to babysit me and we have weekend dinners together often, so they are also invited. My mom invited a few of her friends from middle school that she is still close with because she is hosting the event. We are expecting a turn out of about 60. Again this is highly unusual because I have such a large family, but a few of my cousins declined due to already planned vacations and I was bummed knowing they wouldn't make it. I was not/am not expecting gifts from anyone at the bridal shower or the wedding, and I am always blown away by everyone's generosity and excitement about the wedding.