Bridal shower date

It's more like a surprise party for the bride to be. You should not be stressing on your bridal shower. It's either your brides maid or your family should to that for you.

View Quoted Comment I expressed the responses I got to this question to my MOH at lunch when she asked and she said she was fine planning it but didn’t know anything about planning a shower because she didn’t get one. 😔 she has been asking me opinions on stuff and whatnot so I’m giving input but I’m totally fine with her doing whatever! She reached out to the other bridesmaids and found a date late March (between st patty’s day and Easter) that worked for everyone and around all my nieces and nephews sport schedules so we’re gonna shoot for then! I wanted a taco bar so I’m going to pay for that for sure. You’re right it probably wasn’t on anyone’s radar, but I wanted to do it at the American Legion where my dad had always gone and are basically family. I wanted to book it before they filled up with other events. And my MOH and I have been grabbing things here and for gifts and such so we’re not spending all the money for it at once last minute. Im trying to buy here and there as we go. It won’t be anything extravagant, just a small hall with 30 people or less! Thank you for your kind words while also providing your opinion and thoughts.

I just wanted to chime in to let you know that there isn't one set book that every bride must follow. If you want to plan your shower, you definitely should! Reading through some of the previous comments, some have said it's rude or tacky to plan your own shower. I think it's rude/tacky to expect that someone else would throw you a shower. After all, it's a get together/party to celebrate before the wedding.

To answer the question you posed, if you would like your bridesmaids to be there, I would suggest telling them a few dates to see if they'd be available or prefer one over the other. As for anything, all of them may not be in attendance due to schedule conflicts. In the end, it might be easiest to pick the date and just let everyone know

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It's rude to throw a gift giving event for yourself. That's just standard manners.

It's also rude to expect someone to throw you a shower. A shower isn't a right, it's an optional event arranged by someone close to the couple as an honour to them. No-one is entitled to a shower, even if they are getting married.

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Sorry, I must've missed where it said gifts are required...

Also, who is going to know who planned it? Do you think they'll really care as much as everyone is making it seem? If so, those aren't the kind of people I want to be associated with, that's for sure. Just weird to me that it's such a big deal... LOL

View Quoted Comment It is widely known and understood that the entire purpose of a shower is gifts. It’s one of the few occasions that bringing a present is obligatory etiquette for a guest. It only leads to confusion and hurt feelings when people try to make up their own definitions and rules about everything.

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I definitely didn't know that. Either way, I don't see the issue with planning your own. Either way, not the point of this kind lady's post so we can let that part go

View Quoted Comment The issue is that it’s tacky to host a self celebrating, gift giving party in honor of one’s favorite person, yourself!

View Quoted Comment The original poster has already resolved the issue and she seems to be in a good place now. You are not attending her event and she has already posted that the party date issue has been resolved. There's truly no need for you now to drive in the "tacky" sentiment further. Let it go...

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Thanks for your concern, but that comment was addressed to a different poster who came in at the end questioning whether showers are in fact about gifts.

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The point of a shower is to "shower" the wedding couple with gifts. That's why it's called a shower.