Bridal shower and other parties

I'm honestly that kind of bride who would totally throw herself a party if no one else did aha so if you want one, go for it!

You shouldn’t be planning your own shower. If you mean they’re offering and are trying to figure out a date, I don’t think the weekend of Christmas is the time to do it. People have holiday parties and have just spent a lot of money on their families/friends for the holidays. Showers are usually 1-3 months before the wedding.

Showers and bachelorette parties shouldn't be planned by the bride. It's rude to host a gift giving event for yourself. If someone offers and you think it will be convenient for the majority of your guests in the middle of the holidays, go for it.

View Quoted Comment Thing is. My family is coming in for christmas and staying til January 3. Most are out of town. Wedding is Dec 31 2019. So it would make sense. 2 is my maid of honor lives 3 hrs away so planning a shower might be hard for her. She's been supportive the whole time

I think it's fine. Honestly I don't see why anyone complains about bachelorette parties being planned by the bride, it's not a gift giving event.
Because the shower is a gift giving event some of your guests might think it's odd but honestly if it's around the holidays and a family event I really don't see the problem. Not everyone has a huge circle of friends to throw these things.

I don't see any problem with you planning either. A lot of people will tell you it is frowned upon or wrong. I would say go for it. Especially since all the people will be there anyway. Best of luck

You should do it. That’s what I’m doing and I see no problem with it.

View Quoted Comment But why is it rude? You host your own birthday party don’t you? And that’s a gift giving party? It shouldn’t matter who plans it. We’re in the 21st century. Be done with traditional ideology of “what should be done” if the bride wants to plan her own party let her.

Shower planning can be done from out of town. She just needs the internet. She can order decorations off of Amazon, Etsy, or a local party store (if she wants to decorate), and she can research locations, food, and games online and book everything online or over the phone.

If the week before the wedding is the only time to get all of your friend and family together for a shower, I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Just let your MOH know that is the best week to do it.

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No, I don't throw my own birthday parties. You're right, it's the 21st century, and it's still rude to ask people to give you gifts. Bachelorette parties and other celebrations like bridal luncheons I can understand, but the entire point of a shower is gifts and no matter what time period we're in, that's tacky.

View Quoted Comment I honestly have never met someone who has thrown their own birthday party.

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The only time I've seen an adult hosting their own birthday party, it has explicitly said, "No gifts." And very few even do that.

Seriously, you don't throw it for yourself, and you don't ask someone to throw it. If someone offers, you can accept graciously. Otherwise, you just don't get a shower. You'll still end up married without one.