Bridal shower advice

Your FS hasn't spoken to you for 4 days because of when the bridal shower is being hosted? If that's accurate, you're focusing on the wrong thing. This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. Have you two attended any couples counseling? The fact that he's not speaking to you and hasn't for days suggests that you two don't have the best communication and that you could benefit from some counseling before you get married.

Wait a second... I feel like you really glossed over the fact that your fiancé hasn’t communicated with you in 4 days. Do you live together? Have you seen each other? Is this having to do with the bridal showers or separate issue?

View Quoted Comment Hi Sarah!
I think you are correct about our relationship and communication. I’m taking a pause in planning anything and going to have a discussion with him because I don’t see this working if we can’t communicate with each other. I think counseling would be one of the items I suggested.

View Quoted Comment Hi,
I don’t think I glossed over the communication issue…maybe I have since I’m emotionally exhausted which I know isn’t 100% a good sign.
No we don’t live together and we were supposed to see each other yesterday but that didn’t happen. I’m starting to have serious doubts about this relationship and going to put everything on pause.

Wait what?! Your fiancé hasn’t spoken to you in four days over a bridal shower that he technically has no business even being involved in?? Unless you’re doing one of those coed bridal showers... but hasn’t talked to you in four days?! What’s going to happen when you have to deal with real problems in life?!

View Quoted Comment That’s awesome! It’s great to hear that you’re taking the initiative and you’re in control of your life! That’s a major step and a big thing to admit that frankly not a lot of people have enough courage to admit! Good for you! And I hope it all works out and I hope counseling helps him deal with stress in a more productive and healthier manner. ♥️

View Quoted Comment Good on you! I can only imagine how difficult this is, but your SO’s reaction is very out of line and would be a red flag to me, too.

I definitely wouldn't even think of continuing with a wedding if he is refusing to speak to you over such a small thing. That tells me he is very immature and there will likely be issues when large problems occur.

Omg im almost in the same boat over my shower. But mine is because his mom didn't communicate with me about her friends kids wedding and my mom ended up planning my shower that day.


I agree the shower should come before the wedding. And showers usually happen close to the wedding. I would tell your mom that if guests are comfortable enough to come to a wedding that is double the size of a shower, then they should have no problem coming to the shower a month before the wedding. If she doesn't want to budget maybe let his side plan one before for his family and let your mom plan hers after.
Also my fiance and I were caught in the middle of our parents bs and it even got us fighting with each other. Probably one of our worst fights, however we kept communicating with each other through out the week and tried and finally succeeded to see eye to eye and worked through it all. Your fiance not communicating with you its not only immature but a big red flag, you need communication to have a successful relationship.