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Savvy September 2019

Bridal Shower +1

Deb, on June 4, 2019 at 7:14 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 9

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Hey everyone,

So I need some advice, someone invited to my bridal shower RSVP'd for herself and her +1 when the invitation was clearly addressed to my friend only.

I really and truly dont want to sound like a bridezilla, and I want to tell her it's only for her. To be honest her +1 and I have not always seen eye to eye, but we are cordial and civil so I fully expect and am okay with her being at my wedding, but for my shower I only invited family and the friends I am closest with.

I just dont know how to tell her without sounding like a total bridezilla.

Anyone else have this problem? How did you go about it?

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Latest activity by Danielle, on June 6, 2019 at 1:40 PM

VIP June 2019
Formerbride · on June 4, 2019 at 7:21 PM
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She probably isn't thinking straight. Whomever she RSVP'd to should reach out and let her know that only she invited. Problem solved!
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Master July 2019
Hannah · on June 4, 2019 at 7:23 PM
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Whoever is hosting the bridal shower can reach out to your friend and say that the bridal shower is women only and no plus ones are able to be accommodated due to limited space.
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Master October 2020
Mandi · on June 4, 2019 at 7:29 PM
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Wow. I'm laughing because who brings a plus one to a shower? And who agrees to be a plus one to a shower. So strange.

I'd suggest the person throwing the shower handles it.
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Melissa · on June 5, 2019 at 9:40 AM
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I’ve never heard of anyone bringing a plus 1 to the shower, that’s very unusual. I would have whoever is throwing the shower let her know that unfortunately, they cannot accommodate anyone else outside the guest list.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on June 5, 2019 at 11:07 AM
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I never had that problem but i would be so annoyed if i did. you are rightful for being bugged about this, it's weird to bring a plus one to a bridal shower. bridal showers are supposed to be intimate and literally only for those who know you.
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Savvy November 2019
SHANNON · on June 5, 2019 at 11:38 AM
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I would reach out to whomever is hosting the shower and let them take care of it. Does your friend know that you two aren't exactly friends? If she knows this, it sounds like she is trying to cause some petty drama at your shower.
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on June 5, 2019 at 12:07 PM
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So you are inviting her plus one to your wedding? Is it a significant other or just a random friend?
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on June 5, 2019 at 3:24 PM
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I second PPs saying to let the host take care of this! Ugh, people feel so entitled sometimes
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Master June 2019
Danielle · on June 6, 2019 at 1:40 PM
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I don't know, I suppose I am the unpopular opinion here...but I don't really see the big deal. If her plus one (assuming it's a girlfriend) is invited to the wedding, then there is no harm in her attending the shower. Will her presence really be that daunting on you? I just think you will have enough other guests to occupy your mind and your shower will still be special. That's just how I feel about it though, everyone is different. If you really don't want her there, then I'd (or hostess of the shower) reach out to your friend and say something like "Hey, I am so sorry for the confusion, but the bridal shower invitation is only for you and we will not be able to accommodate your friend. Hope you can understand, and I look forward to seeing you at the shower."
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