Its me again......very stressed countrybride. We are 14 days from our wedding and it seems like non stop disappointments. Heres a little recap...we are still waiting on RSVP's to come back....we sent some late bc we invited more people due to our minimum for venue of 120. We got a lot of declines we were not expecting. My Bridal shower was very stressful leading up to it. 1st my MOH wasn't doing anything (she didn't know she was supposed to do that - she thought his mother was doing it---FIL are paying for the whole wedding) Then MOH involves me in the guest list and tells me minimum of 20 guests...that doesn't even cover FH family. So apparently there was a lot of talk back and forth btw my MOH, FH, BM, and FMIL. A lot of bickering too. Shower went ok with the exception of my mother acting very childish pouting and refusing to partake in the party and left in less than1 hr. My MOH was also so overwhelmed and all over the place. She barely spent anytime sitting and barley spent anytime with me. It was very exhausting to her. Well a little while after the shower I find out that the other BM left a nasty rude VM on my FMIL phone when planning the shower. It was about FMIL inviting guests but offered to pay for all the extra ones she invited. I was really not happy to hear about that and of course she does not know I know this. She was the last of my bridal party I thought I could lean on and get support from but now I don't trust her and am upset about what she did. My other BM is in college so she really doesn't have much involvement...cant blame or be upset with her (she is the daughter of my MOH). Also for the BMs to get there dresses was a difficult task....I gave them free range...just gave them a color but apparently it was very difficult for them.
My dress got altered but was not done right so it is being altered all over again hopefully the right way. Dropped it off last week.
There has been more...lots of family drama.
So now onto the Bach parties. My BM knew what I wanted to do (male revue/magic mike show) and I was hoping she was planning it but apparently she just started. Its planned for the same night as my FH May 11th. The people I really wanted to be there cant come. My MOH isn't coming...didn't really want her to since seeing her at the shower, my boss who has been an amazing support for me cant come, my SIL cant. So I have no idea who is coming. And the BM planning it is the one who left the nasty VM. Its going to be hard to keep it together around her. I know my relationships with my bridal party will be very different after the wedding.
My FH Bach party planning is not going as well either. A friend volunteered to organize it but then dropped the ball. My FH is going today to the strip club to put a deposit down on a VIP room for his OWN bach party. He is not happy either. But I did tell him that if anything gets messed up at the place he wants to go he has a lot more options to pick from than me. There are many more gentlemen's clubs than male revue/magic mike shows...and ours you need to get tickets or reservations. I just really don't want to miss out on what I wanted bc my BM aren't very organized. I am at the point to tell them where we are going, buy my own ticket and be done.
Again so past my breaking point. Everything is a disappointment and sooooooooo stressful. I cant wait til its all over and we are married. I am not looking forward to the wedding day. I am looking forward to the DAY AFTER!!!!!! That is really sad and upsetting.
Needed to vent....UGH sorry