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Bride To Be Mrs.Vafias
Beginner April 2018

Bar Hopping verses a wedding reception

Bride To Be Mrs.Vafias, on March 23, 2018 at 1:47 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 53
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Hi. My fiancee and I are getting married on April 13, 2018. It's on a Friday afternoon. We have decided to spend 80% of our budget on a beach house, for our wedding party, family & friends. It's not a large wedding & it sleeps up to 20 people (2-story..7 br, 4 ba, 2 sets of washer & dryers on each floor, 2 kitchens, 3 balconies, & it's 70 ft from the beach. Therefore, no one can be late bc all they have to O is walk outside where the ceremony will be already set up & ready. My fiancee & I rented a condo 4mins (walking distance on beach from each other). We have a cake being made down there, & will do toasting and cake cutting.

So, instead of having a formal reception & spending that money it was brought to my attention that many couples bar hop for their reception instead bc it's all so close 2gether. I have been to weddings where they preformed the money dance & was a lot of fun.

So, my question is, if we visit several bars along the beach (I want to wear my wedding dress longer than the short ceremony, so will go as is), has anyone heard of that. Not to be greedy for money bc we have stuck to a budget & have reserved for other activities, bc we have these 2 properties from Thursday thru Sunday. I'm sure we are going to have to do sum research exactly which ones bc there are so many, & just talk 2 the manager/DJ or who ever would approve it. We're not planning on dancing our legs off for hours, but to spend a little time here & there. Would live to have some feedback, other ideas, or maybe even a heck yeah... let me know how it goes.. lol. Looking forward to hearing from anyone's thoughts. Thanks in advance! 🤗

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Latest activity by Dallas, on March 20, 2019 at 4:34 PM
  • Bride To Be Mrs.Vafias
    Beginner April 2018
    Bride To Be Mrs.Vafias ·
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    It's in Florida.
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  • O
    Master October 2017
    O ·
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    I wouldn't be up for it, bar hopping just isn't my thing anymore-in my 20's definitely, now, nope. I would probably be a good sport, and go to one place, then go home.
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  • Mrs.W.
    VIP June 2018
    Mrs.W. ·
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    That's how I feel. I really wouldn't be down for it.
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  • Bride To Be Mrs.Vafias
    Beginner April 2018
    Bride To Be Mrs.Vafias ·
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    That's what I thought about bc Im not the one to stay out all night. However, the wedding planner that I've hired did say, there are so many to choose from & there were a lot of family oriented bars/pub-grills where dancing was not at all uncommon. Our wedding is at 4:45pm bc they have to be off the beach by 6:00pmdue to high tide. Considering the early time is another reason I considered it. But, yes....I am rethinking my title "bar hopping," for I can see why your feedback would have been similar to mine. Lol. So, what's your thoughts on the money dance at the fee weay visit. All of those attending are very upbeat, and are social animals like myself.....do you have any other thoughts? And, I greatly appreciate your feedback. 🤗
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  • Bride To Be Mrs.Vafias
    Beginner April 2018
    Bride To Be Mrs.Vafias ·
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    Thank you for your feedback. This forum is very helpful. Did you read my response to the other lady that commented prior to you. I think my choice of wording was poor. Lol
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  • Bride To Be Mrs.Vafias
    Beginner April 2018
    Bride To Be Mrs.Vafias ·
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    I replied to your comment, but I think I did it in the incorrect spot. My apologies. I hope u see what I responded. Thanks!
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  • FutureMrsR-M
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    FutureMrsR-M ·
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    If you aren’t trying to corral too many people and most of them are young and sprightly, I think it could be a lot of fun. The only downside for me would be trying to talk in a packed bar. If you want to one place, you could reserve space, but if you’re bar hopping, you just have to go with the flow or hop to another bar. And depending on how long we were bar hopping, I would definitely want to make sure people could sit down at some point. Another considerations: proper footwear, rain plan so everyone isn’t walking around getting soaked. You know your guests, if they would be down to bar hop, go for it.
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  • Cassie
    Super April 2018
    Cassie ·
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    Is a money dance part of ur culture?
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  • CeeCee
    Dedicated September 2018
    CeeCee ·
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    Bar hopping is cool on a Fri nite with friends casually dressed. That's not at all the vibe I would have in mind as a wedding guest even if it were on a beach. As a host I would fear more people would drop off rather than keep hopping like one big group.
    I attended a DW last year and even though the WP was close, every night/day after the main planned event it was a hassle to keep the group together. People kept drifting away.
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    Beginner October 2020
    Reyna ·
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    I would seriously rethink this idea. If anything go bar hoping the day before as part of a pre-wedding/ bachelor-bachelorette party since you’ll be there since Thursday. And I would no incorporate the money dance to that.
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    SaraBear ·
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    What are you doing for food/dinner? I saw you’re having a cake but you need to provide some sort of a meal. Not a smart idea to go bar hopping with only a slice of cake in your stomach.
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  • lindseybee89
    Expert June 2018
    lindseybee89 ·
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    If you are not having a reception where are you going to have the cake, dj, and the money dance ? ( I am not a fan of the money dance but I understand it is cultural for some people)

    are you going to feed all these people and pay all their tabs in each bar?

    This wouldn't be my scene for a wedding, dressing up nice and then walking bar to bar for 20 minutes each location.

    The two day stay, is that part for the wedding and are you paying for them? are all guests oot or did you just want the people to stay with you the two days? maybe hold off on that budget and reserve a function room at the rastaunt/ bar and do everything there.


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  • Sarah
    Master June 2016
    Sarah ·
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    If your wedding is at 4:45, I hope you’re feeding your guests more than cake.
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  • kbrands
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    Are you still paying to provide the drinks and food for your guests throughout the night? Seems like this would end up being more expensive. Also, I would book something soon since your wedding is less than 1 month away.

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    Anna ·
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    I’m a little confused. if you’re not hosting a reception & do a money dance i think that’d be awkward. if your guests are more into bar hopping it could be fun but if people are traveling it could be too much & if bars are already crowded it may pose an issue. i have been to a wedding where they hosted a wonderful reception & then we all went to a bar after & it was so much fun.
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  • Elizabeth
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    Elizabeth ·
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    I think you may be confused about what a reception is. A reception is not for you. A reception is to thank your guests for coming to your wedding. You host them to a meal and dessert. That's the purpose of it. So if you don't have a reception, how will you accomplish that? Bar hopping would be an awful thank you, in my opinion.

    Also, money dances are tacky.

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  • Jennifer
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    We do an annual bar hop (for 10 years now) with friends every June, while I think it is so much fun, honestly I would not do it for a wedding. People get more than hammered and before you know it all the wheels fall off & someone is getting sick in the bathroom. It just doesn't seem like a good scene for a wedding, maybe an after party.

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  • FutureMrs.L
    Master September 2018
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    What exactly is a family friendly bar/pub??? I'm not going to take my child with me bar hopping.. Just not going to happen.


    I" agree this isn't something i'd do. I don't drink, i'm not in my early 20s anymore. This just doesn't sound fun, it sounds disorganized and chaotic. Also, if you're "hosting" the barhopping, you and FH should be paying the tab... Also, where's the food? You need food, you can't bar hop on an empty stomach, not o mention how rude it is to not provide food for guests at an evening wedding..

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  • FME
    Master March 2018
    FME ·
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    I think bar hopping is more appropriate for a Bach party or a birthday, not a wedding. There just seems to be too many moving parts and too many things that could go wrong. This is not something that me or H would be interested in at all.


    I agree with PP, if you aren't hosting a reception why (and where) would you even do a money dance? That seems even more awkward then it already is.

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  • Sally
    Expert June 2018
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    This sounds unorganized to me. It would be better to reserve a room somewhere for everyone to go eat after the ceremony and go back to the beach house for cake.
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