Backing out

I'd be frustrated, too! First he begs to come then says, nah, I can't come - what in the world? Refrain from laying hands on your friend though

I so feel this! My bachelorette we were going to go out dancing in the city but that sound like a logistical nightmare so I found this AMAZING loft airbnb & I needed 11 girls to commit to $30pp - which when you think if we out we'd spend $15 to walk through the door then $15 on our first drink, this way we could make our own drinks, play our own music & actually hang out with each other. Well of course 11 girls committed but as it got closer people kept dropping off & this happens to me all the time i'll never learn, but I don't get why people don't understand once you commit financially you are responsible for your contribution!

Literally agree with Cher haha. I am in the same boat as we are doing a group trip to Vegas! We are paying a portion of everyone's trip. Hotel rooms alone make a difference whether the room has 4 or 3 people so we have to consider that and make the split even from the total for girls and guys separately. I don't want anyone backing out so I am going to try and be the most up front about it like you were. I would honestly just talk to him and be like this is specifically what I mentioned not to happen because it's unfair to everyone else. Luckily we are booking hotel first so by the time flights will be booked if someone screws up and can't go, the hotel has free cancellation and we can rearrange how many rooms needed then.