Bachelorette Party—how Much Is Too Much?

I agree with Sarah, I think both of your amounts are reasonable but everyone has different budgets and are in different situations at the moment. I'm sure if you talk to her as to why you're worried about the cost she'll understand.

I would talk with her about not being able to afford going. You can approach it in a way that you really would love to join, however, you didn't know the cost of it before you saying yes. You can try to save, but times are tough with not bringing in money and trying to save for your own wedding. To me, that is a lot of money..

My bachelorette party is around $100 per person and that includes a 2 paddle boat booze cruise, the hotel, and matching tanks! Then, they can decide what they want to spend on booze and food.

I usually end up spending more than $650 to attend bachelorette parties. If that includes flight/food/lodging/entertainment then I think it's reasonable. But like people said above, everyone has different budgets.

I think your amount sounds super reasonable!!

$650 for hers is a lot but what does that include? flights.. hotels.. what else?

i think since it is because there needs to be travel that that's why the price is what it is.

It doesn't really matter what strangers decide is or isn't "reasonable." What matters if if the people responsible for the cost (i.e., the attendees) think is reasonable. I personally wouldn't want to spend that much money on a vacation I didn't choose for myself but everyone has different budgets and priorities.

If you can't/don't want to spend $650 on your friend's trip, that is absolutely fine and you should just decline.

Since you are planning your own trip, make sure you are very clear to the invitees upfront (before you ask them to RSVP) how much you are expecting them to pay, and what is and isn't included. That way they can decide for themselves if the can/want to pay for it. Be careful not to put any pressure on people to attend, whether or not you think the price is reasonable.

These things vary widely. Is there no other flight that is cheaper? I know we recently got our flights for my bach party at a very discounted price because of Corona. We live in Texas and the bach party is in NOLA. It's close enough that people are welcome to drive if they choose to do so. Flights had just been so low that we were able to book them for $100 round trip which was worth it to me. Each girl is paying $180 for the Airbnb. We're going over labor day weekend so we're able to stay 3 nights. This doesn't include their drinks or food. It is a lot of money, don't get me wrong but the BM that is organizing it all was very upfront about cost, deadline, etc. She's been lenient on payment deadlines because a few of the attendees were laid off/ cut back on hours because of everything. If it's going to put a strain on you, I'd definitely just let her know the situation. I'm sure she'll understand!

Both prices seem reasonable to me. I'm not sure what your financial situations is exactly, but if you can't afford it, she will understand. I'm not sure what your friend dynamic is or if you're friends with the other girls going, but if it were one of my bridesmaids and I had the means I might pitch in so its more affordable for you/ the other girls could split the cost of the airbnb and allow you to tag along. I'm sure they'll probably get the same airbnb regardless.