Bachelorette Party

I think its reasonable to be a little hurt that noone is showing interest, especially since you aren't trying to push for anything crazy. *Technically* they do no HAVE to plan your bachelorette party, but I would be hurt too if my bridesmaids didn't want to do that for me or at least help out. Do you have a maid of honor, or someone in your bridal party that is a best friend or sister? It might be better to talk with one person in the group rather than everyone together. While its probably not a good idea to directly ask them to plan it, you could say "I'd really like to have a Bachelorette party 2 weeks before my wedding (or whenever), just something simple like all going out together. Do you have any ideas? Would you be willing to help me plan?" Maybe they will get the hint and take over from there, or at the very least offer some help.

I don’t think you’re an asshole for wanting a bachelorette party and no one is showing interest. I second Dayna, and let them know you’d like to do something, even if it’s small to celebrate. If no one wants to throw you a bachelorette party inside of the bridal party then I’d venture outside of the bridal party and ask a couple of your girlfriends if they’d like to go out and celebrate. It’s a bit unorthodox but you if that’s something you want for self then you should make it happen whether or not the bridesmaids are not inattendance or planning it.

No, your not being an asshole. All of us want some type of bachelorette party even if it is a not too crazy one. I would be hurt and left feeling unimportant too especially, since FH non-wedding party friend are having one for him. IDK if you have a MOH but I would talk to my MOH to find out even if its a casual joke that you have to say "but seriously are we doing something". If you don't end up having one, I'm sorry.

I don't think you're an asshole, but also your bridal party doesn't necessarily HAVE to plan one for you. I think it also depends on who is involved. Do you have a bunch of moms in your bridal party? I have found that it can be a little more difficult for them because they have to worry about childcare for their little ones sometimes. My friend actually didn't have a bachelorette party for this reason, her girls were mothers or too young to actually participate, so instead we planned a fun day in Boston and she considers that her bachelorette now. I like the idea of hinting to your MOH to see if that gets the point across. If not, unfortunately I think you either have to step in and plan it or go without.

You dont' plan parties for yourself. If they're not offering to throw you one, then you don't get one. It's not a big deal, lots of people dont' have pre-wedding parties. Stop bugging them about it.

Your friends really need to step it up. Your MOH should really be the one doing the organizing. Hopefully they’re just making it a surprise

You want a bachelorette. There's nothing wrong with that. There are a lot of variables that go into planning a bachelorette. Some people aren't partiers or planners. Others are so busy with their lives, they don't have time. Some can't afford the additional travel costs. Are you wanting a multi-day or a single night. Others don't have the financial means or time off to attend and/or contribute.

Pre-wedding parties that are thrown for you are completely optional, but they also do not solely fall on the bridal party to plan. I don't have issue with brides throwing bachelorette parties as long as the bride pays for herself, but at that point it's just a girls night/trip.

The biggest thing is, just because your party doesn't throw one for you, does not mean they don't care about you.

Same here - no bachelorette party or bridal shower in the works. So I decided to go ahead and plan my own bachelorette. I was super nice about it - no pressure, nothing crazy or expensive planned - and one person has gotten back to me.

To be fair, my MoH is stuck in another country, if she were here things would be different. But still. My bridesmaids and family know about the situation, you'd think someone would step up a little?

Anyway, I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. Love and solidarity from me