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Emily, on September 29, 2019 at 12:03 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 3

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So I will be getting married in November 2020....my friend also got engaged after me and we are in each other’s weddings!

So I would like to make my wedding affordable for everyone...and was thinking something small here in Illinois. So she really wants to have her bachelorette party in North Carolina..it would be a 4 day weekend and I would need a plane ticket.

At first we were going to be each other’s maid of honors...but I told her it’s not fair since no effort was happening in that role so we decided bridesmaids for each other’s weddings. She’s a good friend of mine.

I am trying to save money and days off for work for my wedding and I’m very conflicted about going. Also trying to buy a house and I would not be able to thrown down money for a plane ticket and a weekend full of bars and food!!

I need some advice!!

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Latest activity by Sinéad, on October 1, 2019 at 9:40 AM

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Lindsay · on September 29, 2019 at 1:20 AM
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I would just talk to her and be honest about your situation. It sounds like you two are pretty close so I'm sure she would understand. Maybe instead you two could do something small together over the weekend to celebrate each other's wedding. Good luck!
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Aleks · on September 29, 2019 at 10:14 AM
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I am in a very similar situation - my close friend decided to schedule her wedding for a week before mine (it's become a whole thing - she likes to make everything a competition.) I declined being her bridesmaid because I was worried about the financial burden and being able to take a bunch of time off for her wedding, which is on a Friday with a Thursday rehearsal. I invited her to my local bachelorette party, and she did attend, but I politely declined going to hers which was in NOLA and would have been way out of budget. I sent gifts for her lingerie shower with her MOH and had her buy a bottle of champagne on my behalf so my friend would know I was thinking about her, but I have zero regrets about not dropping that much money on a trip so close to my own wedding.
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Sinéad · on October 1, 2019 at 9:40 AM
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Hey Emily!! I’m sorry that you are having to make this decision. You are both obviously close so hopefully in discussing this won’t be too difficult. You are both in the same situation so I imagine she will totally understand where you're coming from.
The best thing that you can do is to talk to her about the financial strain that this would put on you during this time. She is going through the same thing so I’m sure she will be open to your point of view.
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