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June 2020

Bachelorette party

Diane, on January 17, 2020 at 2:23 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 11
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Ok so right off the bat im going to use a famous quote "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" I've read some awful rude comments to innocent simple questions on here and I don't care to hear that.
Im older... much older than the bride but we have been best friends for about 8 years. I was a MOH "back then" things have changed.
I want to host a batchlerette party for her. Im up for everything but her fiance may not be and can't say I blame him. But aside from that, should she know my plans? Should I ask her where or what she wants to do? Give me some current scenarios. I don't care about our age difference. Im an older cool chick.

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Latest activity by Katie, on January 21, 2020 at 9:08 AM
  • Amber
    Master February 2020
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    I would definitely ask her what she wants to do. For example, I have absolutely no interest in the stereotypical male strippers, bar hopping type bachelorette party. So I would have a miserable time if that's what was planned for me and honestly would just politely excuse myself from the evening. Ask her for a general idea of what she'd enjoy doing, if she's interested in making a trip out of it, then also ask the other bridesmaids (if there are any) what their budgets are. You can keep the majority of it a surprise, but you definitely want to make sure you're hosting an event that she would enjoy!

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  • A
    Devoted October 2020
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    I would ask to see what she wants and let her know you’re down for anything! You seem like a great friend Smiley smile
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    You should definitely ask her preferences.
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  • Jennifer
    Master September 2018
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    I am older as well, got married a year ago, I loved that my girls asked me what I wanted to do and what I preferred. If I left it up to them (most over 40) it would have been strippers, booze and a weekend in Vegas coming home with face tattoos lol!

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Yes! I'm MOH and 100% asked my bride what she wanted. She did the same for me when it was my wedding. It's because I don't think it's safe to assume that they'd be into something or want something when it could be totally different
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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    Theres absolutely zero harm in asking what they might want to do for her bachelorette party! You dont have to tell her exactly the plans if you want some bits to be surprises. But it's nice to have guidance from her as to what could be on or off the table!
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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
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    Ask her what sort of things she'd want to do, any "hard nos", and who she wants to invite. My female friends are from really different groups (my MOH literally won't know any woman at my wedding other than my mom), and I'd kinda need to be somewhat involved in the planning process in order to have the right group of women there. Who I'd want to be there would somewhat depend on what we ended up doing, so personally, I really wouldn't want a party planned for me without my knowledge or input.

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  • Joanna
    Dedicated October 2020
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    LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
    Yes of course, ask the bride her preferences! I would also ask her other bridesmaids for input, and then check out pinterest 🤗 you got this!
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    January 2014
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    Just an FYI: don't waste your time telling people how to post. That's not allowed and people will ignore you and say what they want to anyway.

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  • Vicky
    VIP January 2020
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    Telling people how to post is rude and against the community guidelines.

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  • Katie
    Devoted March 2019
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    Like you said, I would talk to her and get a feel for the type of party she would want to have! Maybe have her narrow down a few locations and see what about those locations makes her excited about them (is it the amazing food? endless outdoor activities at a lake/mountains? late night club scene?) It's likely she'll also give you some hard "no's" ex: the idea of a strip club makes her cringe and she can't stand those little penis straws - or maybe she loves those things, no judgement! lol

    Once you have her ideas of fun (and NOT fun), then consult with the other bridesmaids and get not only additional ideas for activities, but also logistics on travel and budget Smiley smile

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