bachelorette party

I mean, others besides the MOH can throw a bachelorette party so it shouldn’t just be on your sister. I would be appreciative of what she’s planning but if any of your other friends/relatives want to do something let them know you’re interested.

Maybe you could all go out for dinner then after dinner you and your other bridesmaids could do something whether it's going out to a bar for a few drinks or something similar.

I agree with PP, maybe have dinner be part of the bach party, but you and the rest of the girls can go out afterwards, or spend a day at the beach beforehand as an example. Are you comfortable talking to any of your other bridesmaids about what you want to do? Or maybe see if your sister can take the lead on it and reach out to them saying “I know Rachel would really like to do XYz for her party, but I won’t be able to participate. Do you guys want to put it together for her?” Sometimes it’s an awkward conversation to have, but I’m sure your sister and your friends want you to have a special day and feel like a bride, so don’t be afraid to bring it up! You’ll be glad you did! A slightly different situation, but I changed my mind about what I wanted to do and didn’t know how much my MOH had planned or how she’d feel about it. But as soon as I mentioned it she was like “sounds good, whatever you wanna do!” So I definitely stressed over nothing. Good luck! Hope it works out and you have a fabulous party

I think dinner is a great way to include everyone, then maybe you & whoever wants to can go out after? And stay in a hotel overnight? For a little more celebration, but it's not required to attend.

Go to dinner w ur sister & ur bridesmaids then find somewhere to go out afterwards. Hopefully ur sister will understand.

Yes, I think you should get over it. Anyone can offer to throw you a bachelorette party so give your MOH a break. Also, going out to dinner to celebrate sounds lovely and is the traditional way of hosting the bachelorette party. If you really want to go drinking or whatever then plan and pay for it yourself.

I understand your frustration! I agree with previous posters, you could do a beach day (if you live near or can get to the beach) since that is free then do a dinner like your MOH suggested. After dinner invite others to go out for a little more "wild" typical Bach celebration.

Another member of your bridal party could potentially plan a bachelorette for you! Try not to get too discouraged

I am in the same sort of position! my sister is my matron of honor and is due 2 months before my wedding! My Maid of Honor just took on the role of planning the bachelorette party! maybe just express to a bridesmaid how you would like to do more after the dinner with your sister, and hopefully they can help you pull something together!

I agree with others. Do dinner then you and whoever wants to can go out for drinks.

It’s your bachelorette party!! I think you should definitely appreciate what’s she’s planned but it’s not just an ordinary day/evening, you should get to celebrate! I think you should let the other girls know you want to go out for drinks or whatever and do that after dinner. You sister should understand that

I mean she could go bar hopping if shes up to it and just not drink!! That would be nice like a dinner then bar hopping. I would give the suggestion to your other girls and go from there. Don't listen to the people saying "shut up be grateful" because I picked my own location for my bachelorette and 3 of the 4 of my bridesmaids are attending and 2 other friends so I would speak up! It is supposed to be special.

Bachelorette parties rarely happened at all until a few years ago. And they were originally based on male bachelor parties, usually a good meal and drinks, or an evening at a bar, or doing some guy thing together, going to a game, or playing pool or whatever. It is not up to a MOH to plan a bachelorette. Any good friend, whether in the wedding party or not, can plan one, or get together with a group of others to plan one.
Graciously accept your sister's offer. Or if Bunches of your other friends want one enough to get one together, accept that. But turning up your nose at your sister, making it clear you think it a poor offering, is a facet of yourself you really should not show to the world. It is considered bad manners to ask for a better " gift" or honor than someone has offered to give you. Yes, some people go on mini vacations. The great majority have a short night out with friends or family ( usually of their own generation.). You had a shower. Not everyone who wants one has someone who volunteer s to give one. You are already luckier than many.

I would still include the dinner as part of your bachelorette party but then reach out to your other bridesmaids to see if they'd be interested in going out to some bars after if that's what you'd like to do!

While it is awesome that your MOH is pregnant, this time is also about you, and you shouldn't have to just "deal" with anything in my opinion.

My sister was was the first of my siblings to have a child and he decided to come early so now my wedding day is also his first birthday 🙃

View Quoted Comment Thank you for saying that Ashley!
When my sister got married everyone had to travel to Chicago for her bachelorette party. We bar hopped one night then went to the Kenny Chesney concert the next night.

View Quoted Comment I wasn’t turning up my nose at it. To put this into perspective I live in OH and my sister lives in Chicago. Everyone in her bridal party was all over the USA. We had to go to her city. Lots of $$$ spent on that. Then we went bar hopping one night then the Kenny Chesney concert. But thank you so much for your wisdom Judith.

I am the opposite of everyone. i am not that big of a bar person so i am the bride who has them planning a bachelorette party for me and I am all can't we go to dinner and then hang out somewhere. I agree with everyone here. Go to dinner and then bar hop with the rest of the girls if they are willing to go

I have a matron of honor, a maid of honor and 3 Bridesmaids, my sister the maid of honor has epilepsy so my matron helped plan a way to still have a real nice dinner celebration and a way for me to get my clubbing experience in and it makes me and my sister happy

I say go to dinner, have fun, shell likely be exhausted and go home. Then you and the rest can go wild and do whatever y'all want the rest of the night. You don't need everyone there for the bachelorette and in my opinion it's fine to ask the rest if they want to do drinks after dinner.