Bachelorette party

They didn’t offer to host, they aren’t responsible for planning.

Maybe let her send a message asking if they'd like to chip in? Idk. I am 100% hands off with my bachlorette so this isn't my best territory.

I’m planning my own bachelorette trip. But that’s because I kneeing exactly what I want and the last time I let someone plan something for me it wasn’t what I envisioned. My ladies are responsible for their airfare and we’re going to get a huge suite and split the costs. And they’ll be responsible for their food/drinks etc on our nights out. But the only way to find an answer is to be direct. If they don’t want to pitch in then either make other plans keep the night simple or go out as a duo with your MOH.

I would honestly take the no answer by your Bm's as they don't want to be involved and go on with the planning. I would not get involved. IF they want to be involved they will answer her.

View Quoted Comment Thanks ladies. Rebelle I like your idea, my FH told me the same thing to go out with MOH. And even if they aren't hosting it would be nice to pitch in..especially if all of us are planning to go out. I mean the one girl who is in it, she got married last year and her BM and MOH took care of her. I'm not forcing anyone to, but to not contribute ideas or anything.. its kinda hard to handle. I'll reach out directly. Thanks for the advice ladies I appreciate it

View Quoted Comment Thanks I will. I'll just do something with my MOH. Itll be easier.

I agree with Caitlin and that if they are not responding that's because they really don't want to put forth any money. Ideally it would be nice for the Bridesmaids to help out and chip-in and I can understand your frustration but they are not obligated to do so. And I don't mean to sound rude but it sounds like you and your maid of Honor made plans and then you're asking these ladies to just give up their money when they didn't have a say in the matter. I can be a little bit funny about my money when someone doesn't ask my opinion. I also agree with one the other posters in that for my bachelorette I know what I want to do so I'm also willing to pay the money. I know I want to at least spend the night or a weekend in this Resort Hotel so I'm going to pay that bill and I'm going to invite my maid of honor and one of my friends who if I were having a bigger wedding would have been a bridesmaid to stay with me and I know that I'm going to have kind of an adult slumber party where we can come over but if my girls decide they want to do anything else they can plan for if they want to but I was thinking of just doing a simple adult slumber party and I will provide some things and just asking all the girls to come to just bring a dish and maybe a bottle of wine or something to share.

View Quoted Comment Okay.. well they had a say in the matter thank you. If they answered their texts they'd have even more of a say. I'm not even asking for a lot. But I have it figured out thanks.

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Okay then I misunderstood. As I said I did not mean to sound rude but my original understanding of your post was that you and your MOH made the plans. If I misunderstood pardon me. Glad you have it figured out.

View Quoted Comment Its okay. I'm sorry I'm just frustrated. Even with group chats they dont respond much or it's like hours later or even a day. I dont think I made the best choices for BMs. We made plans and shared them and offered them to give us suggestions and input, one did but the other two didnt.

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I am sorry and yes that would frustrate me greatly. I am glad that you have an awesome MOH. I say do not let them get you down and enjoy you bachelorette. It sucks that two of them are not being the best as bridesmaids. Maybe at this point just include them on wedding day details. It is excited your wedding is coming up and you are having a bachelorette. I cannot wait for mine. You will have so much and I love the idea of the wine tasting but at your place. Much cheaper than a winery lol.

View Quoted Comment Yea my MOH is great. And yup that's what I'll do. And yep we gotta enjoy it because we both get only one day! What will u be doing for your bachelorette?

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LOL I have too many ideas and I blame Pinterest again. I know I want to book a night or two in this hotel resort that everyone in my area keeps telling me about and I am hoping my MOH will stay with me. Think to do a few events to meet my friends different schedules. I am 38 so I have a lot of mommy friends who can get away easily during the day then at night. I know I want to have an adult slumber party and just have a few girls over at the hotel and just chill, eat and watch some movies or something. Although I am tempted to steal you idea and do a vino before the vows bachelorette. Not sure if it is better to go out and do it for liability purposes although I would get a large enough room to where anyone too tipsy could stay the night.

View Quoted Comment Ooo that sounds so much fun! You'll have a good time!

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Thanks and I know you will too. Please share pics.

View Quoted Comment Will do! You too!