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Expert October 2021

Bachelorette party planning nightmare

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Katherine, on August 30, 2021 at 8:26 PM

Is anyone else having a nightmare trying to plan a Bachelorette party because of their girls lack of communication. I'm the bride and I know it's moh job but she's very shy so I do all the reaching out which I don't mind. We are all in a group chat and it's like pulling teeth to get responses. We all agreed on the thing to do but I can't get anyone to reserve their hotel rooms. I'm at the point of saying screw it. It's not worth all of this. My MOH is waiting it to happen at all cost. I personally don't want to go if half my girls aren't going. It won't feel like the proper Bachelorette party cuz I'd want to celebrate with the girls I chose to stand by me. I've excused 2 of them from going since they just can't. The girls that were all for it just can't respond to anything. It's just annoying.

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Expert October 2021
Katherine · on August 31, 2021 at 5:10 PM
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I completely agree! I've told my girls I was completely okay with doing something small. The problem now is we all requested off the 3 days and I really don't want to waste my time off work. I'm sure they would be happy to put me on the schedule but I only get one Bachelorette party so it would definitely be nice to get out with all my girls together since when they all met they completely hit it off. I told my MOH I was not going to plan this outing. I'll help with communication but when we get to our destination it's all on u guys to take the lead on what happens.
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Valerie · on January 5, 2023 at 10:52 PM
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I feel your pain. Unfortunately this is alwayyyyssss how bachelorette parties go. I’m even using the Bach app which makes everything super easy (group messaging, setting up polls to vote on activities and budgets etc, even setting up expenses and assigning them to people) and STILL half the girls won’t even log into the app, and the other half won’t respond. I am also the bride and having to plan my own because my MoH is a total flake and not even coming to the wedding anymore and unwilling to do ANYTHING to move her schedule for any of the bachelorette weekends that work for the rest of the group. I finally said forget it and kicked her out of the Bach app and am planning it myself. So what I did was send out invites. Under RSVP I put “Venmo x amount by this date to blah blah blah to reserve your bed at the Airbnb, and include a note with your t-shirt size!” That way they can’t even rsvp without paying their share, and if they don’t send it by that date then they’re not coming.

Girls, do not ever treat anyone else this way. RESPOND. IT’S NOT DIFFICULT.
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Katherine · on January 5, 2023 at 11:01 PM
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I’m so sorry that happened to you! No friend should act that way if they are real friend especially if you originally chose them as a MOH. Weddings are already stressful but I will say they really bring out your real friends. Responding isn’t difficult at all. As a past bride and MOH I’ve seen from both ends and in the end I wanted to make everything smooth for the bride to just relax and have fun. In the end I had a decent batch party but definitely could of been better with all my girls. They are now telling me that they want to have a redo which definitely could be fun but I’m not going to get my hopes up for it.
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