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Beginner November 2023

Bachelorette Party - Payment

Brandy, on August 11, 2022 at 5:11 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 13
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My MOH and I are planning my bachelorette party. We are doing a one night thing because a lot of people are flying in from out of town for the wedding.


We will have 12 adults, 2 kids and 2 babies (it seems to be controversial, but I want the kids there - plus their fathers will all be at the bachelor party). What I’m trying to figure out is what is fair to ask or who to ask to pay for things.
My bridal party is 4 people, one of which is my fiancés 19 year old sister, so anything she would need to pay for it will actually be me.
Do you guys think it’s fair to ask my bridal party (including me) to split the cost of the Airbnb and then everyone else to pay like $20 for us to get dinner? Should we maybe ask for for?
My MOH is doing the decorating, I’m going to have her actually ask for help from the rest of the bridal party and my mom (who is a cricut queen). I just don’t want the event to cause a huge financial burden to my MOH or anyone else.

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Latest activity by Patricia, on August 24, 2022 at 3:26 PM
  • Stacey
    Super May 2021
    Stacey ·
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    Ask everyone in advance what their budget is for the event, and then plan the accommodations and activities around their feedback. It is unfair to present everyone with a bill for expenses they had no input on after the fact.
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    Beginner November 2023
    Brandy ·
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    That’s actually a fantastic idea, I don’t know why I didn’t think of that. Thank you!
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  • mrswinteriscoming
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    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    Where I come from, unless the bride or bridal party are financially able to and generous enough to shout everyone (which I've only heard of but never encountered) everyone splits the costs equally.

    In my circles, I don't think 4 people would be happy to cover the costs of 12 adults and 4 children unless it was very affordable and within their budgets.

    Is there any reason why all the attending adults cannot equally contribute to all costs?

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    Beginner November 2023
    Brandy ·
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    There are a couple people that a higher cost could be a burden (especially those who are coming in from out of state). But we aren’t also thinking of $1000, we’re thinking maybe $200 - with the next 16 months to save for it.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Usually the maid of honor hosts this and she communicates with the other bridesmaids to split costs. As the bride, you only contribute a guest list and available date the week of the wedding, similar to how a shower is done. Also, similar to a shower, you don’t contribute money or any other plans. The maid of honor works with other bridesmaids to figure out what they can afford, which includes the bride’s costs. Some people can only afford $30 per person, not counting travel to the wedding, and for them $200-2000 is not feasible.
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  • mrswinteriscoming
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    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    I think this really comes down to your crowd - personally, as a bridesmaid I wouldn't want to have to cover my own costs plus the costs of 2-4 other people attending but in saying that, where I live, it is the norm for everyone to pay their own way at these events.

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  • Erin
    Super May 2022
    Erin ·
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    Definitely ask everyone what they’re comfortable with first, but I agree that the 4 BMs should not have to split the cost of 12 people. I personally would back out of coming if I was asked that. Can the others chip in for their part as well?


    What may also help is you cover your part as well. I know that’s probably a really unpopular opinion, but for my bachelorette this past March, I actually paid for part of the AirBnb, paid for my own meals, drinks, and actually even bought my ladies all 3 of the pizzas we ate when we were recovering after the winery tour (I may be considered the “mom” in my friend groups 😂). I felt that if I was asking my ladies to drive 4 hours across Texas to celebrate me that I should foot at least part of it. As I said, unpopular I know, but just putting it out there as a suggestion 🙂
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    Beginner November 2023
    Brandy ·
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    I actually do plan on paying for myself and for my fiancé’s little sister.
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  • Erin
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    Oh ok nice 🙂 Yeah I would survey for the budget and then see if the non-BMs can help cover as well.
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    Beginner November 2023
    Brandy ·
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    It looks like I can't edit the post, but update.

    My mom thinks my MOH should pay for the whole thing - not feasible - that's silly.

    I made a group message for the event, and posted that I made the event to plan and try to figure out who may want to attend, and what people may be willing to pay. With a note that money can be uncomfortable to talk about, and I totally understand that, I just want to make it a night that everyone can enjoy at their comfort level.

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  • Paige
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    Paige ·
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    I think it would be fair to ask anyone staying at the Airbnb to split the cost. I'd feel weird staying somewhere knowing someone else was financing my stay. You could also have everyone either pay for their dinner separately or split the cost if you're just ordering a bunch of pizza for everyone.

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  • J
    Just Said Yes March 1983
    James ·
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    Split the cost to each individual and ask everyone to pay some in advance to figure out all the things so it will help you a lot

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  • P
    Just Said Yes May 2023
    Patricia ·
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    My MOH is hosting my bach party and she is having everyone split the cost evenly. We will have 1 kid (my flower girl since we are doing an amusement park), 2 aunts, all the bridesmaids, and 2 brother in laws and she is splitting it evenly among everyone including the child. However she found a reasonable price that she consulted with everyone about first!

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