Bachelorette Party - One night or weekend?

When others plan a party in your honor, it is not a nice thing to let it be known you want more. MOH and others may only want to spend d 4 hours, not multiple days. People are asking WP to spend more on lesser secondary parties like bach, than on the wedding itself recently. I still think that the dress and accessories ( shoes, cover-up) should be the single big expense, besides a wedding gift. I have been asked to a few $500-1300 bachelorette celebrations over the past 3 years. Feels like robbery by bride, as every one like this, the bride not the friends asked for it ( and pouted and cried if they thought they would not get it ). Plan a joint vacation some other time with those who want to go. But for a party others are planning for you, do not up the amount of time and money they are offering to spend. It isn't nice.

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Oh no I would never ask them to extend it! I totally understand the expenses of a bridesmaid. I guess I should have clarified - I would love a little weekend getaway to escape from the stress of all the planning and to do more fun things with my favorite people, but i'm totally ok with one night

I see where you’re coming from, like you said she is planning one night but a little part of you wants a little break from it all — don’t feel bad about that! The one day/night with your faves might also give you that break as well, you never know. I have always expressed to my best friend/MOH even before I got engaged that i’d want a weekend away so she is planning one for me in Miami. I gave her a list of people I wanted there and she reached out to them, those who are financially able to make it will come and others will celebrate at the actual wedding!

I’m sure you’ll have a fabulous time regardless!

We went to see Hustlers on Friday and then went to an older people’s Club. We had a ball.

Honestly, I think bachelorette trips have gotten out of hand. We went on a wine tour for my bachelorette and it was plenty.

I just had my bachelorette party. It was 1 night in the city. We went down Saturday after I got off work, we went to a drag club and a bar. Came home on Sunday. It was a ton of fun!!!

I did a weekend in Nashville (arrived Thursday night, had Friday-Sunday)

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My girls are planning for Miami as well, for next July! How many days are you guys going for?

I can totally see where you are coming from. I honestly want a couple of days vs just one day but that's just my preference. I understand it can start getting quite pricey though as well, I think you just have to weight your pros and cons. I just wanted a little vacay with my girls before the big I Do and it doesn't have to be elaborate either.

View Quoted Comment We’re going the last weekend in June so the 26th to the 29th! I’m too excited lol

I did just one full day of activities

Weekend trips are expensive and she's planning anyways so I think the one day is good! I'm pretty sure my MOH is doing 1 day but we are all gonna stay together (with the boys) the few days before so its kind of both but specific bachelorette party is one day

We did a ladies happy hour after work and it worked out great!

I think trips are a bit excessive in general and it’s such an added unnecessary expense for all involved.

I left it up to them because I had a destination wedding and they all already had expenses with this. However they did plan a weekend trip in the end and it was so fun. If you want a weekend trip you can also contribute to the costs so it doesn’t fall all on them.

We rented a beach house in Fort myers right on the beach ($600 for the whole weekend split 7 ways) we just hit local bars and restaurants, went to the beach and even did one of the boat barge parties where you rent the boat and it hits all the water bars. it was a lot of fun and super affordable.

We are not doing bachelor/bachelorette parties.

View Quoted Comment I agree. Some of them are outrageous.

We did a long weekend (Fri-Sun) trip to Savannah, GA. It was not too expensive for everyone and we all had a blast!

My MOH planned a weekend (Friday to Sunday) in Palm Springs. It was super fun and I was so happy we had a whole weekend!

View Quoted Comment I agree. Since when do bachelor/bachelorette parties mean vacationing for a weekend? Several people invited me for this and I just can’t soend $1,000 to Puerto Rico lol.