Bachelorette Party is the week of the wedding!?

I mean if she has everything booked you're in a tough spot. I'd try my best to organize myself so I can enjoy the bachelorette. Schedules are tough and not everyone gets offered one. Have fun!

I don't know if this helps but my family is throwing a small shower-bachelorette for me the Thursday before my Saturday wedding. FH is also having a small bachelor party at the same time. I'm getting married back home and that's the day my almost inlaws will be in town as well. I'm excited about it and I've seen it done before as well. It's unfortunate you didn't know with more time. I'm sure the surprise was part of the fun, but it looks like you would have appreciated a heads up.

I feel like the bride as right of refusal for the date, and frankly, unless it's something the bride requests, having the bachelorette the week of the wedding is beyond ridiculous.

I would simply tell her that you have too much on your plate that week and will not be able to swing it. That you hope that they can do it another date, but if they can't, you understand.

Hi Tiffanie,

Congrats! Your Wedding is almost here! Is your FS available to pick up the slack on your to-do list while you are away with your bridal party? I looked through WeddingWire articles on this topic and found 8 Times You Might Take Off Work To Plan Your Wedding.

If you get some time to complete tasks beforehand, it won't be so stressful and you can enjoy your Bachelorette Weekend!

I would tell her the plans need to change to only one night. Two nights the week of your wedding is very stressful. We took my SIL out a couple of days before her wedding when all her BM were finally in town but it was just dinner. Then we came back to the house and continued to work on wedding stuff till 2 am lol.

Fh's bachelor party is the Wed-Mon before the wedding on Saturday and I freaked out a little when I first found out when they were all going. I would not want my bach party to be that week, I would def refuse it and than them for trying.

I was rereading this and I missed the fact that it's a 2 day affair. I assumed it was just one evening. Definitely let them know you need to downsize or cancel if it comes to that. My shower-bachelorette includes my aunts, future mother in law, very family friendly in that sense. If this is a just friends thing, I'd also be uncomfortable if it coincides while family is arriving from out of town.

Yikes, this would worry me too! I had a wedding planner and still took the week off before my wedding and was very busy that week getting my welcome boxes in order, writing out my thank you cards, my welcome toast, last minute errands, etc. I could not imagine going away for 2 whole days during that week. I'm sorry this is the situation. Has she not been married before and doesn't realize how busy that last week is for the bride?

I would just tell her to do one night, instead of two. Then it will be in the evening anyway, so you won't be as stressed. The few days prior to the wedding are usually spend running last minute errands, welcoming family & friends, confirming with vendors, and beauty routine stuff. I told my MOH I want my bachelorette party 2-3 months before the wedding for that reason!

Yep, I agree! Unless specifically requested by the bride herself, it's ridiculous to have your bachelorette party in the same week as your wedding - especially one that's 2 nights long...

I had my bachelorette the week of the wedding (wednesday-thursday) and it worked out perfectly. And I had hella family in town too (including all my BM's except one). It was perfect timing cause I did NOT want my BM's to have to travel twice. Just plan ahead so you know you are going to be busy one or two nights.

She should have spoken with you about your availability. As PP have said, I would just tell her you can't make it that week. While it's very kind of her to plan it for you, it's also somewhat inconsiderate to plan it the week of the wedding. I understand that not everyone has wedding planning knowledge, but it's fairly common sense that most brides are busy leading up to the wedding. It's not quite fair for her to tell you that everyone else is busy in the weeks leading up to the wedding so you can't do it earlier, while you, the BRIDE, are obviously busy the week OF the wedding.