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Bachelorette Party- 2 nights?

Haylie, on March 23, 2021 at 9:53 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 11

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For my bachelorette party, we had planned for a night in the city about an hour and a half away.
One of my bridesmaids (let’s call her Mary) who lives there has offered her house to us as a base.
Originally me and the bridesmaids who don’t live in that area we’re going to carpool there Saturday morning for the festivities that day/night. A few days ago however, Mary suggested that we all come down the Friday night instead of Saturday, for a cute sleepover night, junk food, movies and relaxing, and then Saturday for going out. While I do think it would be a fun way to get the weekend started, I don’t know if that would be too much? I don’t want to come off as a bridezilla, and “demand” a whole weekend from everyone. Luckily, since Mary offered her house, we wouldn’t need to worry about the cost of where we are staying, I just don’t want to seem selfish and like I’m asking for too much if we added on another night. (Taking time off work that Friday wouldn’t be a problem for any of the girls as we all get off at around the same time, so we would just leave right after work, if needed.
I know everyone’s bachelorette party is completely different , has anyone done stuff like this ? Did it go over well with your group of girls or did they feel like you were asking for too much ?

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Latest activity by Alejandra, on March 23, 2021 at 4:05 PM

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SLY · on March 23, 2021 at 10:00 AM
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I'd reach out to everyone else and see how they feel!
I know that if it were me, I'd be more than happy to get there Friday night! Most bachelorette weekends run Friday-Sunday anyways, so I don't think it would be asking too much of your party, especially since it wouldn't add any extra cost to anyone. I also don't see it as demanding in any way! It would probably work out better since you'd already be at your location when you wake up Saturday morning. Even though it's just a short drive away, I'd prefer already being there and having everything with me on Saturday, instead of worrying about packing and traveling the same day as the festivities start!
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MK · on March 23, 2021 at 10:04 AM
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This sounds amazing to me! I know myself and my bridesmaids would really enjoy this and jump at the idea of a third night, and a sleepover style, at that! My bachelorette is Friday through Sunday, and we are all contemplating adding Thursday night just because we are so excited for the trip. It all, seriously, depends on your group. If you have a group chat, I would see what your girls are up for. You and your girls make the decisions! There's no answer you will get from any of us that will determine what you should do.
You said it was only an hour and a half -- if some girls wanted to go Friday and some wanted to go Sunday, you all could always split your carpool based on who could/wanted to go a night earlier. Just a thought!
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Veronica · on March 23, 2021 at 10:16 AM
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I would reach out to reach girl individually to get their input. Worst case if someone is against not then they drive up separately on Saturday morning. I also think it would be a fun way to start the weekend.
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Meghan · on March 23, 2021 at 10:29 AM
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My bachelorette party was 2 nights, but it was also somewhere 3 hours away. I personally like weekend long bachelorette parties. Every bachelorette party I have been to has been at least 2 nights.
You could always reach out to everyone, or have Mary do it, and ask if anyone would be interested in going down Friday and see what the general consensus is.
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MK · on March 23, 2021 at 10:37 AM
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Agree with this! I love a long bachelorette trip. Mine is 4.5 hours away from where we live, and we all think we would appreciate a longer trip being that we're already driving that far!
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Michelle · on March 23, 2021 at 11:00 AM
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One night is plenty. But do what works for you. I would not do an overnight unless everyone is in the same friend group and all agree, I personally would not feel comfortable with it.
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Hanna · on March 23, 2021 at 11:13 AM
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That sounds like a lot of fun to me! The fact that your friend has offered her house and people won't have to pay for lodging is a huge bonus too. I would definitely go for the 2 nights, and the worst that could happen is maybe a couple of the girls would have to skip the first night, but that doesn't sound like it would be a big deal.
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Lady · on March 23, 2021 at 11:47 AM
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Just ask the rest of the girls if they'd rather do that, or just go Saturday morning. Then either do what the majority wants or make plans to take separate cars! No reason to overthink too much
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Ava · on March 23, 2021 at 1:00 PM
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I think adding the option of an additional night sounds fun, and not at all like a “bridezilla”, especially since it’s not requiring them to pay for lodging. I would just send out a group text to all the girls to see who would like to go up Friday. If there are some that don’t want to go up early, those girls could carpool together the following day.
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Amanda · on March 23, 2021 at 1:59 PM
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It isn’t demanding if you’re just asking! I would ask and see how they feel. If they’re not into it, don’t do it. Sounds nice and chill though.
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Alejandra · on March 23, 2021 at 4:05 PM
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I'd just have Mary check with invitees since its her home, my bachelorette party was in Vegas and I live in California. We left Friday morning and came back Monday night, I had no bridal party so it was literally my closest (sister, god-mother and 3 cousins), we are all similar ages and were all in relationships so it was a fair weekend, no one wanted to do anything out of control crazy but everyone wanted to do something fun. Since you'd go out Saturday would you stay Friday and Saturday night and drive home Sunday? Or would you and the group who came together all leave Saturday after your festivities? Also some girls may only be able to attend partial due to work, etc. My sister and I stayed Sunday to Monday just us two, it was amazingly fun!
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