Bachelorette; My moh and Bridesmaid passed

Have you considered doing a girls night in or something that everyone could easily go to? Generally it’s frowned upon to plan your own. That being said My bridesmaids wanted to do what I wanted and what I wanted was to go go to Disney. Due to me knowing the most I have done most of the money wise planning so we all can save but we are all involved in all other decisions together. It’s a fine line I think. If they want to do what you want to do and plans aren’t working out you could always try what I had stated above with the girls night. Hope you are able to work things out.

It sounds like if you really want one you'll have to. I know that kinda sucks. No one is doing anything for me either. I don't have the time, funds or desire to plan it. I planned my own bridal shower the first time I got married. I don't plan to do that again

It’s generally considered rude to host parties to honor yourself. If no one can/will host a bach for you, I would skip it.

I know it’s taboo, but I wouldn’t care at all to be invited to someone’s bachelorette party that they were planning for themselves. Especially if you’re just looking to go out on the town and have a fun night, which is what I’m thinking you’re wanting since you said an out of town party was too much. It’s not the 1950’s anymore. We can go out with our girls and have a fun night celebrating our upcoming wedding if that’s what we want. Gifts aren’t mandatory at bachelorette parties like at a shower, so I don’t know how it could be seen as greedy. Why is it we can have a birthday party and that’s ok, but once it’s wedding related we’re supposed to bow out of all plans for any of the secondary celebrations?

View Quoted Comment I really want one and knowing two of my best friends opted not to host a party for me, it hurts. Why would I put myself through that? Or should I suck it up????

I planned a girls night bc nobody really offered me a bachelorette party and I wanted something to do when H was out at his bach party. I just said "hey ladies, let's go to dinner and pottery painting!" And we did just that!

View Quoted Comment Well said. I'd go ahead and plan for a night out. That's kinda what I'm doing. Its the night before the wedding and I'm having a sleepover with my daughters and other bridesmaids. We'll probably just stay up late, eating take out and other junk food, maybe watch some wedding related movies

View Quoted Comment Well said, as usual!

Honestly it sounds like everyone has a lot going on and if you plan your own you’ll end up disappointed.

I’m planning my own just with the wedding party. i personally don’t see a huge deal in planning it by yourself or maybe a group planning like we kinda did. i don’t see it as rude but i think it depends on how you go about it.

I think planning the sleepover/girls night sounds so fun, I would love to come to that! It's kind if weird your friend was planning it and when you said out of town would be too expensive, she just stopped planning? It was nice of you to consider everyone else's budget! If you want to plan something, I think it's fine but I wouldnt ask people to bring gifts or spend a bunch on decorations and such.

So sorry you’re dealing with this!

Although you’re “not supposed to” host your own, maybe you could coordinate and group plan something. It can still be fun!

You could even do a DIY “wine & paint” night at home. Just have to go to the craft store and get the supplies.

I think if you had a “girls night” you would have fun! And just be open with your bridal party. Ask them if it’s too much to do one night. If it is, then you have your answer.

I would plan my own! It's a fun get together with friends!

I say plan your own. I don't see a bachelorette party as "honoring yourself". It's just a party to have fun with your girls, what's so wrong about that? People plan their own birthday parties (which obviously imply gifts) all the time and no one bats an eye at that. Absolutely nothing wrong with throwing your own bachelorette party if your friends just don't have the time.

I wouldn't really care if the bride hosted her own party (I didn't, but if I was a bridesmaid I wouldn't care) unless we genuinely wanted to and she was taking it from us or if she was planning something too expensive without consulting us. Maybe come up with an idea for something casual in town, then include your MOH on planning?

Honestly I say go for it aha. I don't think it's a bad idea to be like hey I wanna do this, anyone wanna come?