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Dedicated August 2022

Bachelorette in Palm Springs from Nyc—too far??

Ane, on July 24, 2021 at 7:45 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 19
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Hi all! I am finally starting to think about my bachelorette party after postponing our wedding from Aug 2021 to Aug 2022. I will be planning my own bachelorette since I love planning trips/events and making itineraries! I’m getting input regarding timing, budget, preferences, etc. from my cousins and girlfriends, but I am also making it clear that there is absolutely no pressure for them to come. I am inviting a large group and I understand that only those girls who are comfortable and able to come will join!


I am hoping to have a Bachelorette weekend in a city that I’ve never been to before. I am looking for a summer vibe with fun activities and some nightlife. I planned my friend’s bachelorette in New Orleans in 2018 and that was perfect! I have since fallen in love with the idea of having it in Palm Springs, CA. The Airbnbs are so modern and beautiful with those desert mountain views! I love the idea of having a pool party with those adorable floaties at an Airbnb and then spending the rest of the weekend enjoying some brunches, bars, and a quick trip to Joshua Tree! But Palm Springs is sooo far from NYC Smiley sad—where most of us live! There seems to currently be only one nonstop flight from NYC at an inconvenient time. Do you think the 6 hour flight is too much for a 3 night long weekend stay with a big group? Would it be too stressful? Has anyone hosted their bachelorette trip there from NYC/East coast? I haven’t really found any equivalent places in the East coast that work—I’ve been to Miami many times and although I thought about Charleston, I haven’t really found modern Airbnbs for large groups there. Any advice/suggestions/sharing of experience traveling far for Bachelorette are welcome! Thank you!!
TLDR: Is Palm Springs too far/inconvenient from NYC for long Bachelorette weekend?

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Latest activity by Ane, on July 27, 2021 at 12:09 AM
  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    I think that’s a lot of travel time for a short weekend. Does Florida or Georgia have something similar? Maybe Myrtle Beach?
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  • Jm Sunshine
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    What about Scottsdale, Arizona known for nightlife and day spas? It seems like you'd get better and cheaper flight options into Phoenix.


    https://www.discotech.me/phoenix-scottsdale/top-10-best-bachelorette-hen-party-activities-in-scottsdale/
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  • C
    Super July 2020
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    I would speak with the people you plan on inviting and get their input before making a decision on destination. That sounds like a lot but your friends will know best.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    Agree with this. Not everyone wants or is able to to spend a lot of money on a weekend trip unless everyone knows and likes each other, and they agree beforehand on the location. Don’t the bridesmaids host and plan it, and cover the bride’s expenses? That is how it’s done when it’s a single night on the town locally.
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  • Jennifer
    Dedicated August 2021
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    I agree this is a “know your group” thing - and some groups are down with it! We went from Ohio to New Orleans for a friend’s bachelorette party, and it was a blast! We went from Ohio to Nashville for mine, and it was such a fun weekend. All costs were presented up front, and there were no hard feelings on either side if someone chose not to attend, for whatever reason.


    I think problems arise when brides expect people to shell out all this time and money, when those people don’t want to go. But you seem very up front about costs, and realize not every will/can go, so go for it, and have a great time 🥂🥂
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  • KYLIE
    Super May 2019
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    I’d probably poll your friends and have them respond anonymously so they don’t have to worry about hurting your feelings.


    I’ve traveled to LA from Boston a few times for three night business trips and honestly, it’s rough. It’s a longgg flight and the time change
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  • A
    Dedicated August 2022
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    Thank you!! Yeah the travel time worries me, especially with a big group! I’ll keep looking for ideas in Florida!
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  • A
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    Ane ·
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    Thanks so much! Definitely a similar vibe and better flight options!
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    Ane ·
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    Thanks! Yes! I plan on getting their input before deciding on a destination! Was just wondering if this was even worth putting on the list because of the flight time!
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  • C
    Super July 2020
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    I think that will depend on your crowd, their PTO, etc. I personally think that’s too far for a bachelorette party. Are you planning on covering any costs since you’re technically hosting? I know people who have gone to different countries for a Bach party but there are so many variables.
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  • A
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    Since I’m the big planner among my family and friends, I’m excited to plan it myself and pay for all of my expenses. That being said, I plan to send an anonymous google survey out to about 15 girlfriends/cousins to get a sense of everyone’s budget/interests/preferences (ex: 2 nights or 3 nights?; flight length/distance). We’ll decide on a destination from there, but was just thinking through if Palm Springs should even be on the table. I’m also not expecting everyone to join. I only have 3 bridesmaids and I’m totally okay with them not attending if they can’t! It’s more of an open invitation to my close friends and family! Not very traditional but I’m excited to plan a fun trip for my girls!
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    Ane ·
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    Thanks so much for your input Smiley smile! Agreed!! I really value transparency and organization for group trips! I plan on surveying the group for ideas and then sharing a detailed budget before booking anything! I plan to pay for all of my expenses and will definitely let everyone know that there’s no pressure to join if it’s not a trip they want to or can take at this time!
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  • A
    Dedicated August 2022
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    Yes, I plan
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    Yes, I plan on sending out an anonymous google survey with questions on amount of nights, flight time, preferred activities, destinations (and if they’re even interested in going on a trip), etc.


    Good point on the time change!! Definitely worried that the traveling would be too tiring to actually enjoy our time there. I’ll definitely keep looking for East coast options!
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    I’m definitely paying for all of my expenses (any flights, accommodations, meals, drinks, etc.). I will also likely buy all of the decor and items we’ll need. I might also offset some costs for the group depending on where we decide to go! But yes, was wondering if others found a long trip like that too tiring for a Bachelorette weekend!
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  • Jacks
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    I get that you want what you want, but it really isn't considered polite to plan a party to honour yourself. Others have said it's a "know your crowd" thing but I would caution you to be very aware of your (high) expectations. You're thinking to decorate and set up a party for yourself? Does that not seem odd to you?

    Pre-wedding events to honour you like the bachelorette and shower are considered gifts and are optional.

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  • Natalie
    Super November 2020
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    I just got back from a 3-day trip to Vegas that had a 4 hour flight. Find somewhere closer! While your flight is 6 hours, you also have to consider the amount of time you need to get to the airport and checked in, boarding, baggage claims, getting to the Air BnB, etc. Close to 18hrs of your trip would be spent on travel, assuming nothing was delayed, and jet lag and the time difference will come into play, too!
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    It’s not odd for me because my family and friends enjoy celebrating life events together. I’m not throwing a party in my honor at all—I’m planning a girls weekend for anyone that wants to come, just like I would a birthday trip. I am paying for all of my expenses and likely offsetting many costs for people. I enjoy hosting people and planning. My family and friends always look to me to plan their trips and events and they are very excited about this trip. It would be a different story if I was demanding that my friends and family plan a bachelorette trip for me where they would be paying for me and giving me gifts. That’s actually not it at all. I don’t have any “high expectations”. It’s not mandatory for absolutely anyone. It’s an open invitation for a fun girls weekend for those who can make it. I’ve been in bridal parties where everyone feels obligated to attend and feels the burden of having to plan and pay for someone else’s trip. That can be very stressful. I really care about making sure my family and friends have a great time without spending too much, which is why I asked others about their experiences traveling cross country for a long weekend before even proposing it to others.
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    Ah thanks so much for the feedback! The more I read, the more convinced I am that I should stick with the East Coast. Potential flight delays are another scary factor to throw into the mix! I’ll probably have to check out Vegas and Palm Springs during another occasion when I have more than a weekend to spend on the West Coast!
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