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Michelle0669
January 2021

Bachelorette Budgeting Help!

Michelle0669, on June 24, 2020 at 11:13 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 15

Hello! So I am the MOH, planning the Bachelorette Party for the bride, plus 7 other attendees (9 people total), I'm struggling to figure out what is appropriate to expect guests to contribute, here are some details to consider:


- Party will be one full day on a Saturday, plus an overnight stay, and brunch Sunday morning. Lodging is free since one of the bride's relatives owns a guest mountain chalet.

- The bride and majority of the attendees will be local, but me and two other attendees are flying/driving in from the US to Canada).

- Relatively low-key day planned: cooking brunch, drinking wine, DIY candle making activity, playing games, charcuterie boards/snacks, movies - all in the chalet. We'd only go out for dinner and brunch.

- As MOH, I plan to pay out of pocket for favors/giveaways, and would like to split up the remaining costs for food/snacks/wine/games/cocktail ingredients in the house, the bride's dinner, and decor.

- Bride will pay for her Sunday brunch, and has also volunteered to contribute some money to the budget to bring overall costs down.

Questions:

- Is it appropriate to include decor in the split of budget, or is that a thing expected of the host to cover?

- Do I charge guests travelling from far away, a little less? nothing at all? I'm thinking maybe we waive the contribution for guests that need to fly in to attend.

- Does $50 (USD) per person sound like a lot to charge for people attending one day of activities in-house?


I really appreciate any help/tips/advice!! This is my first time hosting, thanks again!

15 Comments

Latest activity by Naikesha, on June 25, 2020 at 4:50 AM
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    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    How much is the candle making? I’d ask for that and a small additional amount for groceries (brunch and a few snacks/drinks) and then encourage attendees to bring their favorite snacks to share 🤷‍♀️
    $50 is almost $500 total. Do you think you’ll spend that much?
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  • Michelle0669
    January 2021
    Michelle0669 ·
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    Hi Cassidy! appreciate the response!

    I'm not sure exactly, but i just feel like groceries and alcohol could add up and reach around $200?

    and these DIY candle kits i found on Etsy were about $55 to make 4 full size 8oz candles, so if i got 3 sets of that, is like $165, and that's before shipping and tax, so realistically probably $200, I could probably find cheaper sets maybe, I realize it sounds pricey for a DIY activity but I thought since that's really like the one bigger activity and you get to keep a candle or two, and its equivalent to like $25 a person, then its really not bad when you compare it to if we had gone out to multiple bars or something?

    Maybe $40 a person sounds good?

    We were thinking of asking each person to bring their favorite bottle of wine to share, which would bring down the groceries/alcohol cost. But wasn't sure if it's weird to ask people to pay a fee and bring alcohol.

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    Devoted August 2023
    Hhh ·
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    For an overnight trip and not going out for meals, I think $50 is very reasonable (maybe even too low). The bachelorettes I’ve been to I was usually one of few who had to fly and I’ve never contributed less than those who drove or were local.
    Typically the MOH and bride pay for decor and some favors, but the guests pay for their own food/drinks/shirts/activities.
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I think $50 sounds super reasonable!

    like you said about the wine - maybe they can also bring their own snacks and stuff to share?

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  • Molly
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    Molly ·
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    I think $50 a person is to low unless they will be paying for their food when you all go out for brunch/dinner. I would do $50 and have them bring a bottle or two of wine to share.

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  • Michelle0669
    January 2021
    Michelle0669 ·
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    Ok thanks good to know! I mean if its around $50 i know the two people flying in won't care, but just wasn't sure etiquette-wise if it wouldnt be ideal to charge them since other's aren't paying for flights to attend. so i'll just go include them for the charge

    okay and noted! decor covered by bride/host - that is helpful!

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  • Michelle0669
    January 2021
    Michelle0669 ·
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    Right, yes food wise - the $50 would just cover food/snacks/drinks in the house - for Dinner and Brunch where we go out to restaurants, guests would pay for themselves

    ok cool, yeah i'm thinking definitely include the bring one bottle thing

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  • Michelle0669
    January 2021
    Michelle0669 ·
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    Right i think $50 in general sounds low in general, but the fact that we aren't paying for a hotel makes it a cheap for an overnight trip!

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    Savvy December 2021
    Toya ·
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    $50 per person for a full day party to me sounds extremely reasonable! Not having to pay for lodging is quite a gift and really makes the overall price really good.
    I went to a bachelorette party that was similar (guests just had to pay for food, drinks, and activities) we did not go out to eat at all and there wasn't any 'expensive' activity like a candle making kit and they still asked for $80 a person. Also they didn't offer to cover gas or lower the price at all since I was one of the 2 drivers for about a 100 minute drive each way.

    Maybe ask the person traveling across the border if they can easily afford the trip and if not offer her a discount.
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I think that sounds reasonable. I would reccomend asking each person individually though since reasonable is very subjective and each person's individual circumstance can be very different.
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  • MrsD
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    MrsD ·
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    First off, you're doing great! You sound very organized and I'm sure the bride will love it.

    - Is it appropriate to include decor in the split of budget, or is that a thing expected of the host to cover? When I've been a bridesmaid, I've preferred to be given a job rather than just contributing money. Like "okay you buy favors" or "you buy wall decor" or "you buy invites" rather than "venmo me $20 for decor". Then I feel like I'm a little more involved if that makes sense and people can shop within their budget and DIY if needed.

    - Do I charge guests travelling from far away, a little less? nothing at all? I'm thinking maybe we waive the contribution for guests that need to fly in to attend. If I was flying into a bachelorette, I'd expect to pay. Most of my husband's friends flew in to San Diego for his (including him) and they paid the same as the guys who drove in.

    - Does $50 (USD) per person sound like a lot to charge for people attending one day of activities in-house? No. That sounds SUPER affordable. Most bachelorettes I've attended (not including housing, hotels, flights, etc.) cost me at least $100 a day for food/favors/activities/etc.

    I think the best way to handle this is to text each girl individually (so no one is embarrassed) and explain where you are at with the budget and see if they are okay spending that.

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    Judith ·
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    Fifty to seventy five dollars is reasonable for a n evening out for drinks, or an overnight houseparty with meals plus party food and drink. That is in the realm of traditional bach parties, not mini vacations. Very reasonable.
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    Judith ·
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    At your stage in life you need to go for a long term solution. When you get back to work. And housing where you are not on the edge every month, or dependent on the good graces of a boyfriend.
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    Judith ·
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    Ignore above. two windows open, wrote this on the wrong one.
    Sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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  • Naikesha
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    Naikesha ·
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    I personally think you are doing a great job and $50 sounds cheap. I would say keep $50 if you are telling them to bring their favorite bottles wine if not $75 and you can do wine/champagne like a mimosa bar.

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