Bachelorette /bridal party

My bachlorette party is like a bridal shower and bachlarette party all in one. My first marriage i was married to an abusive person so it clearly didnt work out but now i found the love of my life. anyways my first bridal shower was so boring and not fun what so ever even i didnt enjoy my time and none of the guest did either. So my maid of honor asked me what i wanted and all i cared about this time was having a bunch of penis stuff at my party so it is kind of mixed together so i can have all my friends and family there and have all the bridal shower games and food and stuff there but also the penis stuff and penis games and the fun bachlorette party stuff.. The more inappropriate stuff once people who are not into that leave. Any ways my main question was what should i wear to this? and also is anyone else having something like this is am i the only crazy person?