Bachelor/bachelorette gone wrong

I'm sorry that happened. I wish I had more advice for you

Wow sorry to hear this that really sucks that you didnt feel celebrated. is the demeanor of the guys usually this way. Hopefully they wont turn your reception into one as well if you are having an open bar.

If budget allows maybe you and your ladies can do like bar night, or spa day or pot luck dinner and game night to celebrate you without gifts. Can be very inexpensive like taco night w/games and maybe slumber party best PJ contest a little wine wont hurt either.

View Quoted Comment It wasn’t my fiancé that was acting that way, it was his friends, mostly one friend specifically. His best man and one of the groomsmen are sober, so no one planned a bachelor party. So my MOH planned a joined bachelorette/bachelor party. Only one groomsman could come, so my FH invited a few people from work, most of whom are alcoholics. My girls all had some type of personal issue too. One was missing her newborn, another was being annoyed by texts from her boyfriend, another kept making a big deal about her not being able to stay the entire weekend, the other injured her eye. No one could seem to put things aside and focus on me. Which is saying a lot because I hate to be the center of things, but I was hoping this one time could be an exception. I kinda want to have a do-over with the girls, but another part of me is just like let’s get this whole thing done and over with so I don’t have to think about it anymore.

Maybe book a day for yourself? Start with a kickboxing class to get out your frustrations over this unfortunate situation and then nail appointment and a massage or spa day? 😁


If your girls were missing/distracted by whomever on the first bachelorette, they might behave the same on the re-do. So might be best to just treat yourself!

View Quoted Comment I was thinking that! Just do something for myself because I cant seem to rely on anyone but me

Sorry to hear that you feel this way maybe you take a pamper you day then or go have couples massages.

I hate to hear that no one payed you any attention. So you have a hard choice either ask the girls to do a small do over nothing big like i previously mentioned like dinner and game night or pot luck, spa day something fun yet inexpensive to watch other's budget but still celebrating you.

What were you expecting to happen at the party?

View Quoted Comment I wanted something laid back, drinking but not getting wasted, quiet. Like hanging out, sipping mimosas, and watching movies. I didn’t want it to be everyone getting trashed, but that’s what the boys made it. And the girls knew I didn’t want that.

You could always have another day that's low-key and more of a hangout.