Bachelor party

And this is why we don't get involved in things that shouldn't involve us. Only adds more stress.

Hopefully your story will help other brides from making the same mistake.

Can’t he just tell his brother than he can’t come if he doesn’t pay?

View Quoted Comment I actually told all the groomsmen that when I was helping them out. But that’s his best man and at this point I won’t be the one to tell him he can’t go. And when I’ve brought it up to my fiancé he tells me if they don’t go that would be his brothers fault and that I did what I could. I just think it’s pretty careless of his brother/best man.

I would just explain to the best man/brother that because the trip is fast approaching, you need the money by XXX date and if he can't get it to you by then, that they will be going on the trip without him.

I would just do what your fiance says, and worry about it later. I planned a large portion of my husband's bachelor party, but only after his best man asked me to (and we planned it together). One guy didn't pay him the $200 for the rental house until a few weeks after the bachelor party, but he wasn't too concerned. It'll all work out. That's just how it goes if you offer to put your card down to book things.

View Quoted Comment I offered to help find them a hotel but not to pay for anything out of my pocket. I have everyone’s money besides the best mans in a separate account. Currently they don’t have a hotel reserved for them. I figured as long as they have a hotel to crash at they can handle the rest. But ya at this point I give up not worth my energy to stress about it. They’re guys and like to do things last minute lol which I’ll never understand. I just think my fiancé deserves a trip cause he’s been working really hard. Oh well I tried! 🤷🏼‍♀️

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I doubt they think you will cover it, but again, when you offer to reserve things/put it on your card it's just standard that it's hard to collect from some people and you may have to wait longer for some than for others. I'm sure your fiance would never let his brother not pay? I would try not to stress, it'll all work out!

You are really sweet with going out of your way to pay for a hotel for them. Maybe you can still keep asking or ask FH to ask him to pay you back. Honestly I have been in the brothers shoes before (I wasn't a bridesmaid, but i was invited out wasn't prepared to save a good amount of money for that, because it was a month out and still paying off debt and saving for my wedding D: ) it can be hard to scrape by but maybe after the bachelor party he will have it? I could not pay for everything at once so i paid for my shirt after(the last thing) I got paid after the brides bachelorettes party