Bach party help

1. Stop Paying for things, including helping the bride. It's nice that you have the funds to help a friend in need, but you need to shut that down.

2. Tell everyone who agreed to the budget that they have till (Pick date prior to the no refund policy) to pay you or the plans will change/trip will not happen. No pay, no stay

3. Know that you may have to take the loss for everything you have purchased if you cannot return them should no one stick to their word

If you still want to do something since you've purchased things already, do a girls night that is more local and less expensive.

Miscommunication is normal, but flat out ignoring you and leaving you to plan everything THEN come in at the last minute to plan and change things isn't. If the MOH offered to plan the bachelorette, then she should've been the leader of it all, not you. I also think it's odd that the bride asked you to plan when the MOH already said she would....

That being said, I'd ask the MOH to sit down with you in person and have a talk. Meeting in person gives you a better chance of her responding and not flat out ignoring you lol. You could ask her if she feels a certain type of way since the bride asked you to help plan the bachelorette. I know some people would have hurt feelings if the bride asked someone else to plan when they've already offered. So maybe that's what's going on? Or it could be something else that she's personally going through, you never know.

Since you posted twice, here are my thoughts from the other one.

1. Stop Paying for things, including helping the bride. It's nice that you have the funds to help a friend in need, but you need to shut that down.

2. Tell everyone who agreed to the budget that they have till (Pick date prior to the no refund policy) to pay you or the plans will change/trip will not happen. No pay, no stay

3. Know that you may have to take the loss for everything you have purchased if you cannot return them should no one stick to their word

If you still want to do something since you've purchased things already, do a girls night that is more local and less expensive.

I forgot to address the not paying part, but I agree with what you said for #2!!

If no one had paid by that date you mentioned, then the party doesn't happen. It's not right for you to plan and pay for everything and have no one pitch in when they agreed to lol.

Nothing wrong with a relaxing staycation!

And really? She wouldn't come to a bach trip that y'all planned if it wasn't exactly what she wanted? Thank goodness it wasn't a week long trip to Hawaii

That could be the problem then. Just have a heart to heart with her. She might feel like you took over and there's resentment there. If that's the case, then it sounds like some misunderstanding or her not being honest about her feelings.

Yes to all of this! You can still salvage your time and (some) money if you set some boundaries and stop trying to force the MOH to be a planner when she clearly isn't one. The bride will get a party, but it will be the party YOU can afford, not something she has dreamed up that is outside of everyone's budgets.

At this point it doesn't matter what people previously agreed to if they aren't following through now. You can't literally make them pay you, but you can decide not to lose any more money. I would cut back on the plans as much as you can and definitely don't give the bride any more money.

The bride sounds like a peach. I'd walk away from this mess.