Asking roommates to move out!!

Just be honest and tell them. Say you want to start a family or need privacy. Since your friends with them I'd give them time to find a place they can afford/are comfortable in. Since they live with you, technically they have tenant's rights, and I don't know what the laws are in your state, but I don't think it needs to get that far. And no, you're not out of line at all.

You're not out of line. That's the house you guys own together, and you're newlyweds. This is the perfect time to ask for them to start looking at different places to live. I'd give them a deadline so that they don't just take their sweet time in finding a new place. I'd say give them at least 2 months. (but I agree with Julie, there may be some laws to abide by) Surprised they haven't offered to start looking already.

I get you guys own the house and want your privacy and there's nothing wrong with wanting them to leave, however I'm not sure that telling them to find their own place to live is going to go over that well. Even if you talk it over with them and give them time to find a place you might end up having to kick them out. Unfortunately a lot of people make the mistake of letting friends and family live with them "temporarily" and they always end up having to kick them out and ruin their relationship. Some people who move in temporarily end up getting to comfortable with the living situation and never end up leaving on their own. If they are very understanding people it can be really easy but if they are not then it could end up ugly.

You are not out of line. I'm not saying you shouldn't tell them to leave by any means. It's your house and you guys just got married and deserve your privacy. All I'm saying is be prepared for the worst.

You could tell them that you've enjoyed having them as roommates, but now you and your husband would like to live alone. I don't think you need to go into more detail than that or give any other reasons. I agree with Angel that you should probably give at least two months notice (maybe 3 months if needed), but definitely set a deadline and stick to it.

You are 100% in your rights to ask them to move out! As a gesture of goodwill, you and your husband generously allowed your friends to live with you after moving across the country so as to allow them time to settle in and find a place of their own.

I do not know what the housing market is like in your area, or what their financial circumstances are, but 18 months is more than ample time for people to settle in. I would’ve given them the boot 12 months ago (personally)!

I agree with others that you need to give them reasonable time but otherwise give them a deadline. Have a chat with them and explain to them that it’s time they find their own place and that you’ll allow them to stay until 30 September 2020 at most. You don’t need to justify X, Y, Z reasons.

Nah they should go. To me it is awkward living with a married couple for too long. They should know you two may just wanna be husband and wife. I would have a sit down and like others say just be straight up and tell them that you have enjoyed living with them but now that you two are married you would like for the living arrangements to just be you two. You did not force them to move so now they need to find their place. A pp mentioned it might ruin the relationship and if it does then oh well. Selfish on their end to think they could stay with you permanently. I mean it is logical you want it to be just you two.

Ok seriously thank you all so much for your feedback and input, i appreciate it a TON! I'm such a people pleaser and these situations stress me out because i just want to please everyone, but i cant lol. Thanks again everyone!!!

View Quoted Comment Your welcome. Some situations you have to put your foot down and be stern with people otherwise they will walk all over you. And you are probably going to end up have to be stern in this situation. But remember to just stick to your guns no matter what. You and your husband are not in the wrong here with wanting to live alone. If anything they are in the wrong for overstaying their welcome.

30 days is standard


They don't intend to move out because you're essentially subsidizing their housing by letting them live there for cheap. Don't let them guilt trip you, if it happens. They may have been expecting to get sent out a long time ago.
You're a married couple, you need your space, and you've been more than generous.

Agree with everyone. However, make sure that you follow the law and send notice in writing. Have proof that you have followed the law and respected their rights.

It's totally reasonable to want the house to yourself, however ideally you would have discussed this with your roommates prior to getting married. It's not fair to assume they would just move out if it had never been discussed before. Now is a pretty tricky time to find work, affordable housing, etc. so its difficult to say how they will react to being asked to find their own place. Either way, a conversation is necessary, and you should set some clear boundaries and expectations but also be willing to be a bit flexible given the situation. I wouldn't just start with "hey we're married now, find your own place, you have 30 days" unless you want to ruin a friendship. Sit down and have a respectful discussion about them finding their own place and see where that leads. If a month or two goes by and nothing has changed, then you can have a more frank discussion and provide some firm deadlines.