Asking moh to plan Bachelorette party

I was not aware bachelorette and bachelor party's are a need .. I would not ask somebody to throw me a party it seems gross to me .. maybe drop hints that you want one . . But never ask

She’s not required to plan anything. Maybe she can’t afford it. It’s a privelage not a right.

You shouldn’t ask anyone to plan parties for you. You should let anyone who wants plan it, plan it.

Your wedding is in September. There is no reason for anyone to have planned anything yet.

Also, the person who plans something for you is the one who volunteers to do so, if anyone does. You don't tell anyone to throw you a party. If your bridesmaid has offered to, you can tell her you think it would be awesome and so kind of her to throw one. You shouldn't bring it up to MOH at all, and you shouldn't be involved in how the decision is made. The very most you can do is if bridesmaid says I have an idea for the bachelorette, tell her it sounds awesome and ask if she will loop in the other girls in the party on the plans.

If your bridesmaid mentioned to you that she wanted to plan it, you may just tell her that it's exciting but out of courtesy to check with your MOH.

I understand the frustration and concern. Traditionally, the MOH plans the party, but yours seems less than enthusiastic. You have someone else who is excited to plan it. It can be a conundrum. But I don't think it is something you should get into. I recommend telling your BM to speak with the MOH to see if they can work out who is planning what the next time she brings up her idea. Ideally, all of your BMs including the MOH will work together anyway. You can stay out of the planning, and you can let them strengthen their friendships with each other.

"Etiquette" says you shouldn't ask but it's not a crime to want a bachelorette party...it's part of the experience. You'll get some responses here that will feel harsh, but you deserve the wedding experience you've dreamed of. Unfortunately, you can't MAKE anyone throw you a party, so you should gently let the bridesmaid who is actually talking about it to keep taking the lead instead of putting your moh in a position that could be awkward for her. She may step up more as she sees your other gals building upon their plans for your party

You shouldn't have to ask and you're not supposed to plan it either. That's part of the MOH duties. If she's already staying that she's jealous of your upcoming wedding, I'm not so sure she should be your MOH. JMO

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Well she is already her MOH so that ship has sailed.

Also, maybe a refresher on MOH "duties", for you:

- Buy dress

- Show up

- Remain sober enough to walk in straight line

You do not ask people to plan parties for you. Let them offer. If your BM wants to plan the bachelorette, that is fine. It doesn't have to be your MOH. However, it would be nice of your BM to check with the MOH / other BMs to see if they want to be involved with the planning. But you should stay out of it and let them handle it.

Well you can’t ask someone to throw you a party. But since your bridesmaid has asked you why don’t you just ask her to talk with your maid of honour about it on her own? No need for you to be involved in the planning.

As PP's said it is not polite to ask anyone to spend money to throw you a party. If one of your BM's is interested let her run with it, do not bring it up to your MOH. What you could do is sit down and talk with your MOH about her persistent marriage 'jealousy' is affecting your ability to enjoy the planning process with her.

Pace your self you have plenty of time no need to be freaking out for nothing. When the time come or who ever able to afford it they suggest a ideal with you.

View Quoted Comment I didn't school her. I stated my opinion. Ana if you have someone making you day less than enjoyable, you can un invite then from your party. (I figure that sounds better than fire.)

Ahhhhhh!!! This post has gotten out of control. Wish there was a way I could delete it. Let’s all stop commenting and let it die.

I agree that it's rude to ask someone to throw you a bachelorette party. Any pre-wedding event is an optional event, hosted in your honor, and is only thrown if someone who is willing and able offers to do it. If someone isn't offering, it's rude to ask them.

It sounds like you have someone offering to host a bachelorette party for you, so what exactly is the problem? Simply tell your BM that has offered to do a generous thing that you are unaware of any other plans fir a bachelorette, you really appreciate her offer, and would love it if she planned a bachelorette for you. You do not need to say anything to your MOH. You get your bachelorette party, your BM who wants to do this gets to do it, and you won't be putting any unnecessary pressure on your MOH.