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Maddie
Expert February 2022

Asking for gift cards or money

Maddie, on April 22, 2021 at 4:49 PM Posted in Registry 0 15
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Hi all,

My FH and I have lived together for over a year before our wedding, so there isn't much that we would need to put on a registry (let alone have room for in our small studio).

In regards to our website/invitation, what would be a polite way to inform people that we aren't registered anywhere and if they would like to give us a gift, we'd rather have gift cards or cash?

Thanks in advance

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Latest activity by Gc, on May 5, 2021 at 4:25 PM
  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    That information stays off the invite and is given by word of mouth. Be aware there are people who do not give cash so they will give you physical gifts you don’t want.

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  • H
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Just don't register and people will get the hint. Everyone knows cash is a good gift. If someone asks, just tell them that you don't have a registry because your apartment is so small, and you want to buy a house before getting more stuff (if true). People will connect the dots.
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  • T
    Beginner October 2021
    Tanya ·
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    Why don’t you register with a travel agency and have people put money towards a great honeymoon? That’s what my fiancé and I are doing. You could also use Target and they have an account where people can put money into it for vacations, date nights, etc.
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  • Maddie
    Expert February 2022
    Maddie ·
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    That's actually a really good idea...thanks!

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  • Maribel
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Maribel ·
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    There’s no way to say that without sounding tacky or money grubbing. A trusted friend or bridesmaid could subtly get the word out instead.
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  • Biaani
    Expert May 2021
    Biaani ·
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    If you don't have a registry it's a given to gift cash. at least that's how it is in my circle.

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  • Victoria
    Devoted June 2020
    Victoria ·
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    My SO and I had lived together 5 years and had already bought a house- we really didn’t need much. But, a registry also gave us the chance to replace the old college dishes we used, tools for the yard, new bed/bath linen, new pots and pans, etc. We also specified projects we wanted to do, like paint and new ceiling fans, yard work so said that Lowe’s/Home Depot money would be greatly appreciated.
    My cousin just got married for a second time, and had been left everything house-y in her divorce. Their registry is straight-up bar stocking and honeymoon funding.
    A registry can also have a lot of little things like kitchen supplies or bathroom pieces too. It could be a replacement sort of registry, instead of adding more things to your home. For us it was really awesome, because everything we had previously was old and hand me downs. It felt like a fresh start.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    This. There is nothing wrong with or weird about upgrading household items. Also register for fun stuff. If you both are into entertaining, get things related to that. Or another shared hobby.

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  • mrswinteriscoming
    Rockstar December 2021
    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    Here in Australia (and in New Zealand), a majority of wedding invitations come with a card to the effect of 'this is where you can find our registry information' or 'we will be having a wishing well' (more nicely worded than that of course) and no one bats an eyelid because we generally assume that attending a wedding will involve bringing a gift and have no issue with directions from the marrying couple as to what they'd like. Personally, I actually prefer knowing what to gift the marrying couple!

    While us Aussies do not take any offence to it (no one finds it 'tacky' or 'gift grabby' because frankly we know that yes, you bring a gift to a wedding), in my experience on WW, Americans tend to vehemently detest this practice and find it rude.

    This really comes down to your area/local customs/your crowd.

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  • Corrin
    Dedicated October 2021
    Corrin ·
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    I'm in the same boat as you. I've been living with my fiance for years - we don't really need stuff.

    I didn't put anything on my invites, but I did put a "gift registry" section on my wedding website that says:

    "Your Presence is your Present

    We're extremely grateful to those who have the opportunity to take the time out of their busy schedules to celebrate with us.
    As we are blessed enough to have all home necessities provided for, we've opted out of a formal registry. If you are determined to bless us further, there will be a table and card box at the reception for envelopes, cash, and gift cards.

    Thank you to all of our family and friends.We can't wait to celebrate with you!"

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  • Beth
    Savvy September 2021
    Beth ·
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    Agree with this. My fiancé & I are both older & have had our own homes for 15 years. I’m looking forward to getting new dishes, towels, sheets, & better pots & pans.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Agree with this 100%.

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  • Maddie
    Expert February 2022
    Maddie ·
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    I like the "we're having a wishing well" idea

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  • Maddie
    Expert February 2022
    Maddie ·
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    Love this!! thank you

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  • G
    Savvy May 2022
    Gc ·
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    The polite thing to say is nothing. Everyone knows cash is a great gift and they will know that’s what you want if you do not register.
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