Hey, y'all!
I'm planning on asking my four of my friends to be bridesmaids this weekend, so I'm working on ideas for a proposal party. I ordered some cute scrunchies on Amazon that say 'To have and to hold your hair back', as well as a pack of pretty silver patterned straws that I'm going to tie to little San Pellegrino limoncello bottles with baker's twine. I'd also like to do a little toast, so I'm buying a bottle of my favorite prosecco as well! I'm a bit extra when it comes to event planning, but I'm also trying to reign it in since I'm definitely on a college budget. However, I thought it would be cute to DIY a balloon arch and buy some silver letter balloons that spell out 'BRIDAL party' to take pictures - based on my personality, this definitely wouldn't be unexpected by my friends, but do y'all think this is too much?
I'm also not sure how much detail to provide at this point. My wedding and bridal shower will be in Houston, but we all go to Notre Dame in Indiana, so some additional coordination will definitely be necessary. I've seen other people with cute information packets/detail templates, so I put one together myself with the following details:
- Wedding Details: color scheme, wedding website, wedding party-specific accommodation + transportation information
- Dates and Times: rehearsal, rehearsal dinner, ceremony, reception
- Attire Information: I'm having them choose a dress they like from Kennedy Blue, I just chose the color, and they're also free to choose their own nude colored shoes and accessories - hair and makeup are optional, and I haven't booked yet, so I also included an estimate based on what I've seen
- Hosted Events: I know the bridal party traditionally hosts and pays for the bridal shower and bachelorette party, but since the bridal shower is going to be in Texas, I wanted to let them know that helping host is completely optional - though I'm sure my mom will appreciate any help she can get!
- Ceremony Info: We're having a Catholic ceremony with a full mass, and not all of them are Catholic, so I just added some reassurance that they'll learn everything they need to know at the rehearsal!
- Venue Info: Included photos, recommended block heels since there are a lot of grassy areas on the venue's property and we will be taking wedding party photos outdoors, and included arrival time for hair and makeup (we don't have access to the venue until 12pm)
Is including this amount/kind of information too much? I just want to be fully transparent since we're all graduating in May and moving to different places, so I want to give them plenty of time to plan! One of my bridesmaids already knows and said yes, and she thought including these things would be really helpful, but I've seen a number of posts saying it would be high maintenance, extra, and make them want to walk away from the party entirely, which is definitely not what I'm intending!
My mood board for the party:
I'm also planning on having two other bridesmaids, but they are both my FSILs (one is 11, so a junior bridesmaid, and the other is married and a bit older than me) and they don't live near my college town, so they won't be able to attend the proposal party. Do y'all have any ideas on how I should ask? I don't know my older FSIL very well, from what I do know, she doesn't have a great relationship with FH (jealousy, thinking he's the golden child, etc.), and she's very much a no-frills or girly thing type of person, so I'm a bit intimidated by her and I'm not sure how to approach her - we're also not going to be in-person together anytime soon, so it'll probably have to be virtual.
Any advice would be great! Thanks in advance!