Are you having a combined engagement party, bachelorette party and rehearsal dinner?

I would probably advise against trying to combine these three events. Primarily because they include different people and happen at different times for a reason. Engagement parties are to officially announce and celebrate your engagement, and happen within months of getting engaged. They are usually fairly small affairs with close friends and/or family. Your rehearsal dinner is your way of thinking your wedding party members for taking time out of their schedule to rehearse the ceremony. The rehearsal dinner happens immediately after your rehearsal (Typically the evening before your wedding), and usually only includes parents, siblings, wedding party, and everyone’s significant others. Bachelor and bachelorette parties usually happen in the weeks or months leading up to the wedding. It’s usually not advisable to do it the evening before your wedding.

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I agree with Cece - we don't have rehearsal dinners where I come from but from what I understand of them, they are usually held within 1-3 days of the wedding itself, which naturally is about as far as you could get from an engagement party which (if held) is the first event in the lineup to the wedding, meaning they are generally months if not years apart.

I also don't really know how a bachelorette party would tie into for a whole list of reasons.

As a guest, this would really confuse me.

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Yeah, at most I've heard of some folks having the rehearsal dinner and get a few drinks at a bar immediately after as sort of a mini bachelor/ette party. If you wanted a more elaborate bachelorette party I wouldn't recommend doing it the night before the wedding. As the previous poster mentioned, engagement parties are to celebrate getting engaged.. so it wouldn't make sense to have one close to the wedding. We had an engagement party about a year ago, which was very casual, and it was a month after we got engaged.

It’s not required that you have all of these events either. Everyone in my life and FH life is so spread out that an engagement party or bridal shower doesn’t seem necessary. We are going to do a combined bachelor/bachelorette party months ahead of wedding with plenty of time to recover, and a nice rehearsal dinner the night before ceremony with parents and wedding party, with drinks afterwards somewhere casual to greet our guests coming into town. That way we aren’t asking a lot of the wedding party/guests.

I didn't have any of those, nor a bridal shower. They are indeed optional, so don't feel pressured to have them if time does not allow. I didn't need even need a rehearsal of the ceremony, so instead had a welcome dinner for out of town guests.

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View Quoted Comment The less complicated the better! I’ve been a guest at many out of town weddings and had more fun/enjoyed the trip and event more with less hectic schedules. The last one I went to was a four day event, out of state, and I was stressed out the entire time trying to make it to all the events they had.

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