Are Pre-wedding Events Necessary?

Most are completely optional. Engagement parties are regional, common in some areas and unheard of in others. Bridesmaid brunches are an optional thank you from the bride. Bridal shower is optional, but as the bride you don't get to dictate if one is held for you or not. The same applies to the bachelorette party. The rehearsal dinner is mandatory if you have even one attendant who participates in a ceremony rehearsal.


You can do anything virtually as you wish. Not all invited guests may participate though.

Literally none of these things are necessary. The only exception would be the rehearsal dinner, if you decided to have a rehearsal. if you opt out of a rehearsal however, there is no need for a rehearsal dinner.

I don't think any of these things are neccessary. Rehearsal could be necessary.

I always felt it was all a bit "much". I'm not doing a rehearsal, we all know where we're walking from, where we're standing, I don't feel that needs a whole "event" to go over it. Same with a Bridal shower, just bring or send the gifts to the wedding. My bachelorette party is going to be just a gathering at this insanely fun and Wild Greek/Mediterranean restaurant which is basically a dance party with bellydancers and you're allowed to dance on the tables. IF the place remains open with Covid. My wedding is in October, so everything depends on what next year's Covid situation is.

None of them are necessary, they all are optional!

If you’re having a rehearsal than rehearsal dinner is mandatory. We’re not having an engagement party or wedding party- we’ve been together for a while. I am opting for a bachelorette/lingerie party but am keeping it to 10 ladies. I don’t do the bar thing & don’t want to go out of town for a weekend with my bridesmaids. We are going to a place in north Scottsdale where you can make your own candles. After, while the candles are cooling, we will go have a nice dinner & have the lingerie party. Pick up our candles & be home by 8!

I agree that none are necessary during COVID or not. I didn't have any of those events (by choice) and I am very married.

None of them are necessary. If someone would like to host one of these events for you, I would suggest hearing their plan and going from there. They might have a Covid friendly idea.

They are not necessary. in fact i have seen many people go without any of it

Technically speaking if you don’t have any pre-wedding events most people will assume it’s because you’re looking out for their safety. A lot of Those have a purpose that makes them useful but they’re not necessary. For example while it is important to practice what you’re going to be doing at the wedding and then feed the people after the practice, you do not NEED to have a rehearsal dinner. Also while it is nice to set up a time for wedding guests m to give you and your intended gifts you do not NEED to have an engagement party/ bridal shower.

They're always optional, and with Covid I think it makes sense for couples to skip these in favor of having a safe wedding.