Are Men/women Justified In Cheating If Married Sex Life Is Bland?

No. If your marriage or sex within your marriage isn’t where you’d like it to be, it’s your responsibility to speak with your spouse and tried to find a resolution. Cheating is never justified, IMO. You either want to make things work with someone or you don’t. If you don’t, just end the marriage. Don't stay married and screw around with someone else.

I don't believe cheating is ever justified. If you're unsatisfied for any reason, sexually or other, in your marriage that does not constitute cheating. I understand being sexually satisfied is part of marriage but it is not what a marriage should be based off of so in my opinion even if you are not happy in that area, you should have enough respect and love for that person regardless to not cheat. Counseling, communication, etc. there are many other options to try and deal with having your needs met than cheating.

Cheating is never justified. Have a conversation, make suggestions, seek therapy, file for divorce. There are 283 solutions and cheating isn't one of them.

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YES. THIS.

I agree with all PP's; cheating is NEVER justified. Seek therapy, talk about it, read books about sex, etc. But in my book, there's never an exception to cheating.

Nope. If it is bland you are at least 50% of the problem. You have the responsibility to talk about it to your spouse.
And if you really hate sex with your spouse then you have compatibility issues that need professional help or divorce. Trying to excuse cheating by claiming you're not satisfied in bed is lazy and just shows the person making the claim had no intention of fixing the issue.

Ummmmm no.

No. Never. That sounds like a poor excuse someone uses after being caught cheating. A marriage takes work, that is part of the commitment we make to our spouses.

Hahaha, what? That’s like asking if robbing a bank is justifiable if you’re poor.

There is absolutely no excuse for cheating. I am very old school and believe that once your married- You should only have eyes for your husband/wife. I don't even believe in divorce UNLESS there is cheating/abuse involved.

If there is problems in a marriage where sex is concerned- That couple should def seek couples therapy or just have that open communication.

It might hurt but, its better than the alternative of what cheating can/will do.

Bland? No. But when one partner loses sex drive altogether (which, alas, can happen due to factors other "compatibility issues"), the couple might at least explore having the one who still has the sex drive take another sexual partner. I find it ironic that people see divorce as a better solution than an outside sexual partner, since a divorce is in effect a violation of all of your marriage vows.

Note that I'm not suggesting cheating, since we're talking about an agreement between the spouses. But I'm old-fashioned enough to believe that absent extraordinary factors, marriage should be "til death us do part." I don't believe that if one partner loses their sex drive entirely, the other partner's choices should just be divorce or lifelong celibacy.

Big no! There is never a good excuse to cheat on a spouse!

View Quoted Comment I think if the couple has an open conversation and determines that the best route for them is for the partner who still has a sex drive to find another sexual partner, than we aren’t talking about cheating anymore. That to me would fall under an open relationship because all parties are aware and condone the situation. Cheating by definition is a dishonest act so my thought process would be that cheating includes the spouse not knowing and maybe the new sexual partner also not knowing.

Cheating is NEVER okay!!

I don't think so. Absolutely not. There is no excuse. If you're unhappy have the decency to have that conversation and if necessary go to counseling.

Cheating is the worst thing to do when your sex life gets bland, it shows that you'd rather give up than repair the relationship.

A different thing altogether when two partners agree together that they should sleep around-- although that's also a last-resort thing. If you or your partner go straight to an open relationship before trying to work out your issues it's probably not a good thing (not that I'll judge anyone who *does* eventually consensually go that way!!).

Hell no! Cheating is never ok, especially if you are married! If you sex life is bland you and your spouse should address it together. Cheating is not the answer.

Definitely not.

You don't solve a problem within the marriage by going outside the marriage, or seeking a solution outside the marriage. You pledged your love and undying devotion to this person, for the rest of your life. How is seeking someone outside that union going to help anything? It is not.

Cheating is a no go, no matter the circumstances. An open relationship IMO is also not a solution, because when you start having sexual relations with someone it creates a bond between you and that person and often results in an emotional connection which then is cheating because you are having an emotional affair with someone. That’s just a recipe for polygamy (drastic, I know). I also don’t believe divorce is a solution, just one or both partner(s) giving up. The only option is to have a conversation and then decide if it’s something you need therapy for or if you can work it out on your own. Nothing worth having comes without hard work and sacrifice. That’s why marriage is not to be entered in lightly or without a lot of thought and serious conversations and/or also without premarital counseling.