Jaymee
Just Said Yes January 2021

Are Bridal Showers still a thing?

Jaymee, on June 26, 2020 at 1:52 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 27
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Okay guys my fianc茅 and I are planning this wedding and have no idea really what we are doing! 馃槵 Are Bridal Showers still a thing? I have only attended one event before but that was years ago. If so, is it weird that I would be the one throwing it or should I mention it to my MOH? What exactly does a shower consist of and how far away from the wedding should it take place? Thank you for any information.


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Latest activity by Kimberly, on June 29, 2020 at 10:13 AM
  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna
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    Bridal showers are most definitely still a thing, but the bride doesn't throw it herself. Usually thrown by the MOH, a relative such as an aunt, or family friend. It consists mostly of receiving gifts! Mine was 3 months before my wedding

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  • Jaymee
    Just Said Yes January 2021
    Jaymee
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    Thank you so much for this! I am so lost at this planning thing!
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  • Caitlin
    Expert January 2021
    Caitlin
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    Definitely a thing. Typically, the bridal party throws it; however, whatever suits you will work. I don't always follow etiquette as I do my own thing most of the time. You, your family, a relative, a friend, etc. Basically however it works out, it'll be fine. Good luck!!! 馃グ
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  • Jaymee
    Just Said Yes January 2021
    Jaymee
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    I appreciate your response! How long before the wedding would you recommend it takes place? Our wedding is in January but I am in retail so from early November until early January I am so busy so planning will pretty much be at a stand still around then.
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle
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    Totally still a thing ! Smiley smile and they鈥檙e fun
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  • Caitlin
    Expert January 2021
    Caitlin
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    Of course! I'd say the shower is often 2-3 prior to the wedding day and planning for it can begin as early as 4-6 months out. Again, there is "etiquette" to advise you, but you don't have to follow those rules. You're pretty much free to do whatever you'd like, whenever you'd like. I totally understand the dilemma, but the good thing about weddings is that you (the bride) can pretty much do what you please throughout the planning process.
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  • Kristina
    Dedicated July 2020
    Kristina
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    Yes it鈥檚 a thing.
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  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
    Hannah
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    Yep, totally still a thing. Etiquette states it's rude to host your own because the whole point is to "shower the bride with gifts." Hosting your own can come off as gift-grabby. Basically, anyone other than you can host it. My bridal party hosted mine. The guest list is typically comprised of close friends and family who are local, and it's usually 2-3 months from the wedding. Mine was actually a month before because that worked best for my 2 out of town bridesmaids (I didn't pick the date). We had the bachelorette and bridal shower the same weekend.
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  • Jana
    Master October 2022
    Jana
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    Bridal showers are still a thing and always will be. The bride never hosts her own shower. It's also bad etiquette for the mothers of the couple to host it. Your attendants will host it for you. Also, it's common for coworkers and fellow church members to host their own.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle
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    Yes, bridal showers still occur. If you throw it yourself that鈥檚 fine too. I mean, people throw their own parties, birthdays, celebrations all the time and even get gifts. So 馃し馃徑鈥嶁檧锔... it鈥檚 not the end of the world, and half the time I never knew who was hosting the shower anyway (and I didn鈥檛 care). I brought a gift and played the games. FH and I decided against having bridesmaids and groomsmen and I really don鈥檛 want a shower (there鈥檚 nothing that I need). But one group of 4 friends have mentioned throwing a shower for me or going on a weekend trip. I really hope they don鈥檛. So I鈥檓 definitely choosing a getaway instead. 馃槅
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  • A
    Super October 2021
    Ashley
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    Bridal showers are still common and often expected. They should take place at least a month before the wedding.

    Usually, the MOH is responsible for organizing the bridesmaids and putting it together with their help. That isn鈥檛 always the case, but it is part of the expectation of being MOH.
    You should absolutely have a conversation about the shower. The host(s) need to know if you want to be surprised or if you want to know the date. How involved do you want to be? You are also responsible for providing a guest list, so the host has to let you know when she will need that from you.

    You will also need to know if your MOH wants to host or is capable of hosting. For instance, my friend鈥檚 MOH is not hosting hers. I鈥檓 the one handling the shower planning. Her MOH is not local to us and is unfamiliar with the area, so it made more sense for me to be in charge since I can handle the details in person.
    You鈥檒l definitely want to ensure that your registry is finished by the time the shower invites will be going out. It is customary to give physical gifts at the shower.
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  • mrswinteriscoming
    Rockstar December 2021
    mrswinteriscoming
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    I鈥檓 not having one because I think it鈥檚 an outdated tradition and serves no purpose. FH and I moved in with one another a few months ago (marrying in December) and we have everything we need so we don鈥檛 see the need in an event that just requires people to spend even more money on our wedding.


    In saying this, I come from a culture where people give generous monetary gifts at the wedding.
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  • Karissa
    Just Said Yes June 2021
    Karissa
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    Bridal showers are a thing if you want one Smiley smile. The bride doesn鈥檛 throw it herself but I definitely 鈥渉elped鈥 my mom and bridal party choose a place for mine. It ended up being canceled because of Covid but I鈥檓 hopeful for next year 馃槀馃槶
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn
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    Bridal showers are very much still a thing. You shouldn't throw it yourself or mention it to your MOH. It's not her responsibility to throw you a party unless she wants and offers to.

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  • Mrs. S
    Super November 2019
    Mrs. S
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    Mine was 5 months before my wedding. I鈥檓 a teacher and had to travel for it so summer was the best time.
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  • Samantha
    Devoted July 2020
    Samantha
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    Yeah they're still a thing, I almost didn't have one because we already live together and we didn't need much but my FH's aunt insisted that she throw us one lol she likes to plan get togethers. I'm glad we did, too, because it was fun. We did it outside and had the tables spread apart in her backyard and it was garden party themed so all guests got a small herb to take home.
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  • Kimberly
    Super March 2021
    Kimberly
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    I think everyone has clarified bridal showers for you. If someone in your life doesn鈥檛 throw one for you and you still want to do something with the women in your life you can host a bridal luncheon (no gifts). Bridal shower = gifts and bride is not involved in the planning; bridal luncheon = no gifts and bride can be involved in planning.
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  • Llcool_Kay
    Expert July 2021
    Llcool_Kay
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    Bridal Showers are definitely still a thing. I am having one. My mother and MOH are planning it. (With some help from a few of my ideas LOL) typically the bride herself doesn鈥檛 throw it. I would definitely mention it to a close friend or maybe members of your bridal party. Mine will be about a month away from my wedding. I want it to be my last celebratory event before my big day
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  • Amy
    Devoted October 2019
    Amy
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    Yes they are still a thing, and a lot of fun! My wedding was October 26th 2019, and my mom and MIL threw my shower August 31st 2019. We had food, a few group games to play, and I opened gifts. I got A LOT of lingerie, and a good amount of items off our registry. A shower also saves people from bringing a big bulky gift to your wedding. We still had people bring gifts to the wedding, but some people just prefer to carry a card. It kind of makes me think of a PG rated bachelorette party. Your aunts, cousins, mom, and friends will be there. Are Bridal Showers still a thing? 1
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  • Haley
    Expert October 2020
    Haley
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    My bridal shower is July 11 for my 10/10/20 wedding. My MOH sort of asked if I wanted a bridal shower and should she throw one, I said yeah and gave her my mom and grandma's phone numbers to see if they wanted to be involved. She is basically planning the whole thing but secretly asking me what I want as far as food and stuff. I also gave her the guest list.
    Like someone else said, the etiquette is that you don't throw your own party, but you can surely help. Some older people might think it's weird if YOU are the RSVP so maybe steer clear of that haha.

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