I don't really feel the need for me to have either. My MOH and future step-daughter were both super excited about me having a bacheolorette party from nearly the moment I got engaged, but I don't really want one. They both seemed bummed when I told them I don't really want one. I don't know if my MOH is thinking about a bridal shower since she hasn't mentioned it, but again, I don't really want one. I never really understood the whole bridal shower thing and to me it just seems to be another reason for people to give you gifts. Meh...I don't really need/want gifts and don't want people making a big fuss. Anybody else feeling like this?