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Anyone else want to be petty?

Lauren, on September 9, 2020 at 10:28 PM Posted in Married Life 0 21
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So I know when its not my place to something so I bite my tongue. BUT none of my husband's family, except one person came to the wedding because of covid. Most of them couldn't travel or get the time off, completely understood. But there is a couple of his cousins that couldn't come because his aunt threatened to kick them out if they came because of covid and needing to be cautious. Ok fine you can't help that. And then I see them posting pics at a GIANT event without masks on and no social distancing. Pisses me off so much for my husband that his aunt would be so awful to not allow the grown adult cousins who live at home to come to our smaller wedding with precautions but truly don't give a dang and just wanted to be hurtful towards him. GRRR. I won't say anything but wish I could! Anyone else have something they really want to be petty about but can't and need to let it out?!

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Latest activity by Margaret, on September 11, 2020 at 6:38 AM
  • Kerin
    Super February 2021
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    Oh honey. My step mom is already stirring garbage and my dad never stands up to her. If she says anything at our wedding im not promising to keep my mouth shut. She has already called FH names, makes rude comments about his family who she hasn't evem met and tried to guilt trip me about so many things during the planning.


    Vent here if you need to, but don't let them keep you mad. They don't deserve that power over your mood 😘
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
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    Ugh yea I know what you mean - some people can be so hypocritical when it comes to covid! My friend was like “I wouldn’t be hanging out with friends now”... I was like weren’t you just in a double date at a restaurant...? She’s like “well that’s different...” .... how?!!!?
    Some people really don’t get it: but at same time we can’t make people feel comfortable in some situations vs others when they see it that way
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  • L
    Devoted August 2020
    Lauren ·
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    Thank you! Im sorry you're dealing with all that, family can be so ridiculous! Its your day and you defend the day and your guy as you need to!
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  • Jai
    Rockstar May 2020
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    I feel you! My husbands parents didnt come to our wedding (7 people) due to wanting to social distancing n covid, BUT they moved from NJ to PA & were in Home Depot, letting contractors in their new home, and going home decor shopping. Guess other priorities matter. We just keep them at a distance now
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  • L
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    Lauren ·
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    Thats awful, so sorry! Its so true some people have priorities in an unexpected order and its unfortunate
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  • Jai
    Rockstar May 2020
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    Yep and its their loss! Unfortunately people don't realize that when they make poor choices there are consequences
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  • Krista
    Dedicated April 2020
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    I’m a nurse and had to cancel my wedding because of covid. My fiancé is a respiratory therapist and we see covid every day and see just how awful it is as a community and to be honest a miserable uncomfortable way to die and a hard road even if you recover. I have family members who think it is a joke and sometimes the government made up to control them. Every Facebook post is a slap in the face and I want to get so so mad because of how wrong and hurtful it is. I’m not sure I will be able to have a relationship with them after! Vent and be angry and then move on with or without those how are so disrespectful.
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  • Michelle
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    That’s horrible girl- so sorry you’re going through that! Agree with the others- vent here & dont let them ruin your day!
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    My entire maternal side of the family didn't come to the wedding because they didn't like the wording of the invitations, so... I *feel* you on wanting to be petty.

    I'm sorry they are so hypocritical! It's just rude.

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  • Alma
    Expert October 2020
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    WTH? Wow, that’s so petty of them. What was the wording they didn’t like ?
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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
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    Pfftt Whatever. Look at it this way Less people you have to pay for. Its pretty hypocritical of them but hey look on the bright side, at least you know their true colors and can look out for next time.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    This is normal, unfortunately. There are VERY FEW people who act consistently with their fear of COVID. I'm so sorry that you and your FH were hurt.
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
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    Didn't have my mom's name on it.


    Had my stepmom's, instead.
    Mom did *nothing* to help plan or pay or support, so the parents who hosted/helped got named. ILs were local and helped. Dad and stepmom helped pay. They got named.
    (Mom is a narcissist and abusive. Family didn't "feel a connection" to the *paper*, because her name wasn't on it. My middle name is her maiden name.)
    We had a fantastic time without her.
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  • Talia
    Super October 2020
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    I just had made a post about this! It's so frustrating honestly. I feel your pain. We said we're done with these people. Like you can't flip flop about being cautious about covid then be going out. I feel for the people who decline for their actual fear of this virus and are keeping them selves safe during this time.

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  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    So I ask... did the cousins say their aunt said so or did the aunt specifically say something to you and FH? Somehow I'm suspecting it was the first and I'd definitely call them or the aunt out on it, just because.

    I've stayed quiet in many many cases and I've put my FMIL, FSILs, FBILs all in their place including the ex-wife (different times of course). I'll let you push someone once and bite my tongue but it will never happen more than once.

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  • L
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    Sorry you had to deal with that drama but glad you had an amazing day!!
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  • L
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    Lauren ·
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    They told my husband that she said it, but she's done this before to other family members and its just who she is, so we 100% know she did. There are definitely times it is absolutely necessary to say something so I totally feel you! Im sure there will come a day I don't bite my tongue but for this I know its not worth it since we already had an amazing day anyway!
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  • L
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    That is so true and unfortunate that people just aren't consistent and act differently when it's convenient!
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  • Alma
    Expert October 2020
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    Oh my!! I think that one takes the award for petty reasons not to attend a wedding 😅😅🤣😂
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
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    Obviously, there's a whole lot more to what led up to that, but.. yeah, once I heard they didn't have a "connection" to PAPER, DH just looked at me, like, "yeah, I don't think I need to meet your cousins, thanks." More importantly, he doesn't think I should be treated like that. (I should point out these cousins and I have never shared a name. Our mothers were sisters. *I'm* the one with that family's name... none of them have it at all!)

    What's even more fun? The Gen Z kids are still talking to me. One of them, and I could *hear* her eyes rolling, told me in May that her parents/aunts/uncles were still complaining. About paper. Months and months later.

    She was *utterly* unimpressed. I think I've started a trend.

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