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Just Said Yes June 2022

Anyone else experiencing post-wedding anxiety?

Elizabeth, on January 5, 2023 at 11:35 AM Posted in Married Life 2 8
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I'm embarrassed to even be writing this post, but I've been struggling with post-wedding anxiety and I'm wondering if maybe any other brides have experienced this? My wedding was 6 months ago and it was such an amazing day! The only problem is that I keep thinking about how I wish I could have done certain things differently. For example, I didn't LOVE my wedding dress or my wedding hair. I always thought that I would feel the most beautiful I have ever felt on my wedding day, and that just wasn't the case for me. I keep seeing images of other dresses and other brides on their wedding day and comparing myself. I feel like my wedding gown was 'outdated' and not exactly what I had always pictured myself wearing. Now that I reflect on why I ended up buying this gown in the first place, it was because the sales woman was pressuring me. I think the toughest part of it all for me is knowing that there is literally nothing I can do to change the situation at this point. I'm working on just accepting the situation and focusing on what is most important - I married my best friend! But the anxiety isn't fading away! Can anyone else relate or is anyone else experiencing this??

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Latest activity by Mrs.evans, on January 19, 2023 at 6:44 PM
  • Cece
    Master October 2023
    Cece ·
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    I am so sorry you are experiencing this. Rest assured, though, there are tons of brides on this forum who express the same feelings you have expressed here. I know we all hype up our wedding day in our minds, and when things don’t go the way we envisioned them, it is very disappointing. You are correct, you cannot change what has already happened. However, you CAN create new memories! Maybe plan a vow renewal for you and your husband on your one-year anniversary. You can plan a one-year anniversary trip and are renew your vows there - get a new dress, have your hair and make up done, hire a photographer, etc.
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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    There were definitely things that happened I wish I could have changed but unfortunately time machines don't exist so changing those things isn't possible. Instead I would recommend focusing on the things that dod go right and the fact you married the person you love.
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  • Angie
    Savvy November 2022
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    I absolutely understand! It’s been two months now, and I keep thinking, “Was our dance stupid? Was my decor tacky? Why did the venue add fake flowers.. I hope no one thought I picked that.” I do keep reminding myself, “It’s over, and it was a nice day.” I cheer myself up by focusing on the things I liked. We had magically beautiful weather on a November day. My photographer took some really beautiful pictures, and I’m glad my ceremony was in a woodland setting in Autumn. Basically, I make sure to pat myself on the back for every decision I made that went well, and it’s helpful!
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  • M
    VIP January 2019
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    Since you are still feeling anxiety this many months later, I think it might be time to see a professional for help. Can you see a counselor?

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  • Paige
    VIP October 2022
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    I'm sure anyone could look back and pick out at least one thing that they'd like to change or fix. Rest assured, you're not alone in that. If it's really eating at you, a vow renewal or anniversary trip like Cece mentioned could be fun. You could also look into renting your "dream dress," getting your hair and makeup done, having your husband rent a tux, and do a photo shoot to have some pictures of what you had envisioned. Putting your efforts into doing something else you're interested in could also be a good way to channel your feelings.

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  • Rue
    Savvy October 2021
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    I can relate! I definitely wish I had certain kinds of photos taken with certain people, or think back and wonder what if I had done certain things differently. You’re not alone! Try to focus on the present, it was a moment in time that has passed and now you can create new memories 💕
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  • Gillian
    Devoted July 2021
    Gillian ·
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    I can’t relate, but I can recommend talking to a licensed professional like a counselor or psychiatrist. While short term anxiety can be normal, it’s not good to have it long term. A professional can help with thought cycle breaking, anxiety coping techniques, and get to the root of the distress so you can better understand and deal with what is upsetting you.
    I believe that the wedding magazines and wedding companies hype everything up beyond a point that is normal so that they can continue to turn massive profits. So many people end up having unrealistic expectations of what the day may actually be- amazing but not quite perfect. There’s always going to be something that doesn’t go well or you wish you did differently.
    Talk to a professional. You are not alone.
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  • Mrs.evans
    VIP October 2022
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    Hi you are not by yourself I had it in the last 3mos before we got married 21/2mos ago. From the hotel manger kept messing up my guest reservations place multiple of room on a guest to other wedding parties either not showing to wedding attire color wrong groomsmen waiting last min to getting there tuxes. To my photographers cars broken down money raised up by a vendor. To something happen with our venue family members situations transportation problems. Had to get a new places in less than 24hrs. I was freaking out among other things but who knew that God did all of those things for to be where he said that we belong. In a church and the guests that was supposed to have been there we went from 120 guests to 30 guests. Hearing the beautiful things that my groom to be to now my husband said to me and our officiant and guests. Our wedding ceremony that we finally saw from laughing crying the faces that i made. And a amazing first dance song that he chosen just for us and I cry every time I see it. To him calling me his wife kissing me holding that will always be happy
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