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Expert June 2019

Anniversary During Pandemic

thisismrsb, on June 8, 2020 at 7:21 PM Posted in Married Life 0 17
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I know that there is currently a lot of concern on here for brides who are planning a wedding or had to cancel or postpone due to coronavirus. I feel for you and I hope that my question and current concern does not undermine or invalidate what you are going through, because that is not the intent of this post.


I don't know what to do for my first anniversary. Milestones are important to me, so I want it to be more than just takeout or a home cooked meal. We do a lot of that already.
So far, we have talked about glamping in our backyard and swimming in his parents' pool. Ideally, I'd love a weekend away, so that's why I came up with glamping. My father even said he'd loan us a tent. I'm just not sure DH is interested in the idea anymore.
I also don't know what to get him. He loves watching sports and going to sporting events, but that's not happening right now. We've already had to cancel a trip to see the Toronto Blue Jays after the MLB closed before the season started. I had booked a room for his birthday at a hotel inside the stadium with a floor to ceiling view of the field. Neither of us had been to Canada before.
I checked our airline and apparently United no longer offers gift certificates. I would have liked to do that. I need help. Can you please help me? We are in New Jersey and I would like it to be someplace away from the house. Thank you.

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Latest activity by thisismrsb, on June 10, 2020 at 4:08 PM
  • Melle
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    My anniversary is coming up too and we were only planning on getting some takeout, looking through our wedding photos together and exchanging fits. i think it's nice that you do wanna make the most out of it. given the current situation with the world, if there are things reopened that you can do that would be nice like the beach or something?

    maybe as a gift you can get him something sports related like a jersey or hat?

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  • thisismrsb
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    These are great ideas and I would love to go to the beach. I heard that the Jersey beaches have opened. I'll ask him
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  • thisismrsb
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    These are great ideas and I would love to go to the beach. I heard that the Jersey beaches have opened. I'll ask him again. Last time, his resistance was because of my diabetes in relation to Covid-19.
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  • Hannah
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    I'm in NJ and struggling with this to. We already had to cancel my 30th birthday celebration, his is looking similar, and our original plan of going away for our anniversary is also a bust 馃槥. The beaches are open (we went last weekend). It's up to each municipality to make up the specifics, but all of them are supposed to only be letting in 50% capacity. At this point we're probably just going to order take out from a fancy restaurant and call it a day.
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  • Nefetera
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    Plan a at home date. Listening to yall favorite song, eat yall favorite meal maybe if u wanted to do extra and decorate a small section of your house...lol
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  • Rebecca
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    Third from NJ, here. I had to have a Zoom birthday, so I feel you, and, as a baseball fan, my heart tore into pieced over the canceled plans.

    I will say that things *are* starting to open up, and we are seeing a lot better data. My city, in particular, seems to have really done well. (Jersey City, for reference.)

    Would you be comfortable finding a restaurant doing outside seating?

    If you do the beach, though, I'd wear a mask. I know parks are open, too, but I don't know if they are allowing picnics, yet.

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  • Elizabeth
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    You could consider a weekend away in a more isolated place, too. Beaches aren't isolated at all and if he's worried about COVID, a lot of people at beaches aren't being careful enough right now. Maybe you can rent a cabin in the mountains or something? Something more secluded could still be very romantic, but not as packed with people.

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  • Meghan
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    Our anniversary is coming up and we have discussed getting a cabin in the mountains. This will allow us a little get away, but with plenty still to do even with Covid. We can go hiking, do grab and go and wineries, breweries, and local restaurants, or just enjoy the view from the hot tub at our cabin.

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  • Kari
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    First anniversary is typically paper, so I think in terms of a gift tickets to something he would enjoy or a gift certificate to something you can use in the future would be appropriate - whether its a sporting event, museum, movies, dinner, etc.

    We just eloped and couldn't do any sort of typical celebration or honeymoon but we did an overnight camping trip and it felt like "something different" and "getting away" which is something we have not been able to do for a while. I think doing something different from what the past several months have been, even if a bit mundane, will feel really nice. We both like the outdoors and camping, so for us that was fun, but if your husband is not the outdoorsy type even glamping might be a stretch. Can you take him out for a nice dinner somewhere, or buy a bottle of champagne to split or get him some good craft beer (I know NJ is opening more slowly, so not sure what your local regulations are allowing at the moment)?

    Maybe you can take on a home project together (not always fun, but sometimes) or even find a tree or shrub you can plant that will last for years and be your "anniversary" tree?

    Or treat him to some experience he might enjoy - maybe a private wine tasting is doable or you can do a photoshoot together. There are a number of different things you can do socially distanced and outdoors that would be relatively safe but also special and a nice change from isolation life. Good luck!

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  • thisismrsb
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    So I asked hubby again about the beach and this time he said it might be a possibility. 馃槉
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  • thisismrsb
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    Home dates are nice and all, but considering that we've been stuck at home, I'm trying to think outside of the box within the limitations. Before the pandemic, we did at-home dates a lot. If it was just a regular day of the year, an at-home date would be fine, but this is our first anniversary, so I don't want to spend it inside the house.
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  • thisismrsb
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    If we were to do the beach, I would bring extra towels to lay out a six foot radius. I can only wear a mask for brief periods of time due to the heat, sweat and eczema on my face. The mask would be in my purse in case I needed it, but I would be swimming and won't be able to wear a mask. 馃槈 A restaurant with outside seating would be lovely. 馃槏
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  • thisismrsb
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    That's a really good idea!
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    Great idea!
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  • thisismrsb
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    These are all great ideas. My sister suggested I make a voucher for him to claim a weekend getaway at a later date, or a coupon book with one at the end. DH said glamping is still an option. He is currently working on the mudroom himself. I don't want to get in the way. I'm just letting him do his thing. We are first time, new homeowners, so I think this is important for him. 馃槉 I am going to consider your ideas as well.
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  • C
    Devoted September 2019
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    For our first anniversary we plan to stay home and keep it low key. We will be out of town for a relative's wedding the weekend prior and now that we adopted a dog we love to be home bodies. We'll celebrate by recreating our wedding dinner and maybe hors d'oeuvres. Also, the bakery we used will send us a complimentary 6 inch cake in the flavor we had at our wedding.

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  • thisismrsb
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    That's awesome that your bakery is doing that! My mother in law saved to top of our wedding for us all year. Hopefully it's still good.
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