Alcohol at bridal shower ?

I have been to showers that provide alcohol, and those that don't. I think it's a know your crowd thing, but I always prefer to provide alcohol for any event that I am hosting, personally.

I partially agree , there is a bar there but some of the girls say it’s rude to have a cash bar ?

I’ve never been to a shower, unless it was at a church, that didn’t include some type of alcohol.

I can't think of an adult party that I have been to where there has not been at least wine offered.

My mom threw me a brunch at a tea house and we had mimosas and bloody marys. Does not have to be full bar, but even just an alcoholic punch maybe?

Much like having an open bar. I think if they wanna drink let them buy their own.this day is about you not them.

View Quoted Comment Okay so you think it’s okay that there is a bar there if they want it ? I think that is fine

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Don't let your guests pay for their own drinks. If you were having a party at your home, would you charge your friends to drink there?

I've been to both, and if it's out of their budget I think it's okay to not serve alcohol. If everyone has the option to buy at the bar I think that's a good compromise. Another option they can look into if they want to is bringing their own and paying and uncorking fee - it definitely depends on the venue and what they allow, but that can be much cheaper.

View Quoted Comment It depends I’ve been to plenty of parties that say byob.

Could they maybe order a few bottles of wine for the table or give folks a glass of champagne? If half of the group or so doesn't drink, it might not be too expensive to go that route. I don't think they need to offer open bar by any means, but I do think offering some form of alcohol would be good.

Most of the showers I've been to alcohol was available for purchase at the place but wasn't provided to everyone for free. I know about my shower and my mom said mine is the same way, there's a bar if me or anyone else would like to go get a drink but we'd pay for the drinks. I don't think bridal showers are the type of event where guests get drunk. I think it's classier where guests would have a mimosa if it's a brunch shower or a glass of wine if it's during dinner time.

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And do those BYOB parties require you as a guest to also bring a nice gift to the guest of honor?

I'd suggest a consumption bar/open a bar tab for the shower guests. That way your guests don't have to pay for their own drinks, and you don't have to pay for alcohol for the non-drinkers.

View Quoted Comment But my question is is why does alcohol have to be involved ? My wedding is going to be open bar that’s enough , why do people have to drink when they go somewhere ??? If the bride doesn’t drink especially a very nice lunch, apps , dessert and a favor should be enough to thank them why do you have to throw alcohol in ? Like I said I’m fine either way but your making it like the alcohol is the only thing that is worth coming ? I think that’s rude people should have to drink at every function

View Quoted Comment I’d rather have a glass of wine with lunch and no favor.

View Quoted Comment Yes. The ladies shouldn't feel obligated to pay for drinks expecially if you don't drink. I think they ones who want drinks will pay for their own if it's that big of a deal.

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Because it's an adult party. A lot of people enjoy wine, and like to have a glass with a meal.

No one is saying you need a tequila luge.

View Quoted Comment But again alcohol is not a necessity.

View Quoted Comment Neither is a shower.

View Quoted Comment Well I guess they’re screwed then. The restaurant doesn’t allow byob . I mean day of it the bridesmaids decide to buy a few bottles then so be it.